Is anyone inviting their mom to their bachelorette party? Is it weird?

posted 3 months ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Did you invite your mom to your bachelorette party?
    Nope. : (26 votes)
    59 %
    Yes - we had a great time! : (15 votes)
    34 %
    Yes - it was horrible. : (0 votes)
    Yes, but my bachelorette party hasn't happened yet. : (3 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 2
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2018

    It is pretty normal to invite moms in the uk, I’ve been to several hens with moms included and my husband has been on a few stags that had both dads attending.

    My mum didn’t go to mind due to location though as she lives abroad. 

    Post # 3
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    Helper bee

    Although it’s common in the UK, I think it’s pretty weird (even though I’m very close to my mum). But whatever floats your boat, if you want here there then invite her. 

    Post # 4
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    782 posts
    Busy bee

    I’ll probably invite my mom. She would like to be included and I’m not one to be exclusive/hate making people feel left out. She and I are very close and although it may be a little weird, she’s super fun and I wouldn’t do anything different with her there or not. I don’t know if she’ll actually come, though. She may just want to be asked! It’s definitely not a common thing through. 

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    I didn’t invite my mom and no one I know has either. I’ve gone to a male nude club with my mom though lol

    veej :  

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I would invite my mom but she would have no interest in coming haha. 

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

    I didn’t have a bachelorette party, but my SIL hosted a lingerie shower for me and invited my Mother-In-Law and both the grooms grandmothers…it was weird. Not as weird as I expected but one of his grandmothers knitted me 2 baby blankets so… yeah. 

    ETA: My own mother was invited but did not attend because she thought it was weird. 

    Post # 8
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I live in the US and didn’t realize this was a thing people did until I got engaged when my Mother-In-Law asked me “So what are  we doing for your bachelorette?” I’m not a huge fan of her but didn’t want to upset her, so she came along. I didn’t invite my own mom, nor did I tell her Mother-In-Law was going. My mom is an alcoholic (sober for over 30 years now) and sees alcohol as the devil. She incredibly judgmental about other people drinking. It’s almost like she assumes everyone else is an alcoholic too and should see the light and quit like she did.

    My Brother-In-Law is getting married soon. Father-In-Law is going to his party, Mother-In-Law is coming with us for his fiancee’s party (ugh). Each of them is having around 30 people at their party, driving 3 states away. I always thought bachelorette parties were just for the bridal party but I guess I was wrong. 

    Post # 9
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    Helper bee

    I mean, it is not common- or at least I’ve never heard of it. But who cares whats common? The question is, is it something you want to do?

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2017 - Maui, Hawaii

    My mom and mil were both at my bachelorette. My bachelorette was pretty simple though, dinner followed by dancing. My mom left after dinner but my Mother-In-Law loves to go out dancing and stayed all night. It was great! I think where I live inviting the mom and Mother-In-Law is pretty common, and they may choose attend all or part of the events. I was Maid/Matron of Honor for my best friend and we invited several “older” relatives to the bachelorette, but the older relatives only came to the first part, a mani-pedi spa day, then the rest of us went out and bar hopped. 

    Post # 11
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    When my best friend got married her mom came to dinner with us and then left while all the bridesmaids took the bride out dancing and drinking. I think that’s a good compromise.

    Post # 12
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    veej : I’m in Australia, and I am not in contact with my mum, but every hens party I’ve ever been to has had the mum invited, and most have been involving strip clubs.

    I think if your mum is going to enjoy the event, why not?  But if the activities were not compatible with her beliefs, then I wouldn’t. 

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    Yeah I’m in Australia and my mum (and godmother, aunties etc) came to my hens party. However, it was one afternoon of cocktail making and dinner – not a weekend away with strippers or anything like that!

    Post # 14
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2018 - Four Seasons Hotel Los Angeles at Beverly Hills

    I’m in the US and it’s not as much of a thing here to invite moms to a bachelorette but I don’t see any reason why you shouldn’t if you really want her there, and you know she will have a good time. You do you! It’s your celebration, you should include whoever you want.

    Post # 15
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    Yes my mum and Mother-In-Law both came to my hen do and it was brilliant!! 

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