Post # 1
I am having serious anxiety about losing my middle name, but I don’t really want to lose my maiden name, but I am absolutely sure I want to take my fiance’s last name.
My fiance’s idea? Keep all four!
Can I do that? Has anyone done it? I imagine it might be a pain in the neck when filling out forms and such…
Post # 3
wowie! lol kudos to you and knowing what you want! I have no idea how to help you! but I am sure you’ll figure it out
Post # 4
I am going to do it! I am going to legally change my last name to a middle name and take his last name, so I will me MissRain Middle Maiden Married (wow, that was fun to type!). I don’t yet know what all it will entail, but I can’t imagine doing it any other way.
Post # 5
That’s what I did. The only place (so far) it’s been a ‘problem’ is the bank… There I am Jeni Middlemaiden Newlast. 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club
I was just thinking this same thing! I’m Mitla [middle] [maiden], I want to be known as "Mitla [Maiden] [Married]" but don’t want to drop my middle name (my mom made it up for me), and I don’t want to hyphenate.
I think it’s up to what the state agencies will allow you to do. One of the Bees posted about trying to do this in Texas and running into some roadblocks, can’t remember who it was…
Post # 7
My best friend did this. It depends on your state’s rules, but some states (mine is one) only allow you to have your official name fit into 3 fields, for data entry purposes. Therefore, you have to hyphenate somewhere in order to accomodate their format. My friend did FirstName Middle-Maiden NewName on her drivers license.
Post # 8
i’m thinking of hyphenating so it’ll be in 3 fields: so first middle oldlast-newlast
My middle name has a lot of significance to me b/c of my grandfather, so I can’t get rid of it!
Post # 9
I am planning on dropping my middle name for official document purposes and bumping my maiden to my middle. I figure my middle name will still always be there and its a common name "Elizabeth" which is also my sisters first name so its not anything I’m overly attached to.
So I will be:
Mrs. Gabrielle Maiden HisLast
Post # 10
I just dropped my middle name, but yeah it was a bit sad!
My mom used both middle and maiden as initials…like Mary HN Lastname.
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2010 - The Tower Club
I’ve thought about formally changing it to "Mitla [Middle] [Married]" and then just using "Mitla [Last] [Married]" in a professional context.
Would it be illegal for me to do that if it isn’t my official name? I’m just thinking of using it to sign my emails or on publications, not legal documents.
Post # 12
@Milta: That’s what I’m thinking of doing too…at least at the moment. 🙂
Post # 13
I kept all 4, adding my maiden as a second middle name. It isn’t really a problem anywhere, but be prepared that some places do have limited characters or fields for name entry. I think social security and my retirement fund are they only ones that spell out my full name on the forms. My drivers license (WA state) had a maximum number of characters, so they only put the inital for my maiden name, but spelled out my other names (but the full name is in my record somehow).
So you have to be prepared that your name or initials might not be 100% consistent on all your accounts or forms. But I just made sure I put it all on my name change forms, and then let that agency or company figure out how to process it. And as long as it’s consistent on your legal documents, and as much as possible on your financial docs, it shouldn’t cause any problems down the road.
Good luck! Even though my maiden name doesn’t show up that much on forms, I like that it’s still there as part of my legal identity and full name, so I’m glad I kept all 4 🙂
Post # 14
I’m a little curious – maybe I just don’t understand – why would you lose your middle name?…
(just curious about this…i myself am just taking changing my last name to his).
Post # 15
It’s something I’m considering. I definitly want to take my fiances last name but I don’t know if I want to keep my maiden name or not. I have 3 brothers, 3 nephews, and 2 cousins with my maiden name so I’m not worried about that. It’s just been a part of me for 32 years. But then I think life is about constant change. So I don’t know…..
So sorry, I don’t have any good advice for you. I’m stuck up here on the fence!
Post # 16
We’re BOTH going to have all four. I’m taking his last without dropping any of my own names, and he’s going to take on my last as a second middle name.