(Closed) Is anyone not enjoying wedding planning..

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I enjoyed planning a party, but it was stressful and I was glad when it was over. 

Since the wedding, I’ve had to deal with the pictures and doing our own photo albums (which I thought would be fun and I’d save $$$).  But I’ve put it off because I’m so sick of looking at them.  LOL.  It sounds bad, but it’s just a chore.  I did a bunch of it last night and it took so long.  I finally get to “order” the book and it was going to take another 5 hours to download…OMG!!  So, today, I will try to download them and finish.  Then I’m done!!! LOL.

We lived and LOVED the day, but I’m done with the wedding day stress.  I like being married, but all the stuff that went with the wedding – nice memories, but that’s it.  The family drama (although compared to some, we didn’t have much) was annoying. I still get little comments every now and then and it’s like…ok, get over it already.

Post # 4
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463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I go through phases.  Some days I like wedding planning. Other days I hate it with a passion.  I really hate disagreeing with a close family member’s opinion so it is hard.  I just pick my battles.  Fighting with family about centerpieces isn’t worth having a rain cloud on my supposed to be happy day.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@HappyBride1211: We had our wedding on Sept 4, but all those feelings are so fresh in my mind.  *HUGS*  Don’t worry, it will all be okay and believe me when I say it will all be worth it.  I stressed and moaned and groaned for the last year, but come wedding day, it was just so special and phenomenal.  Keep your head up, and come back to the boards to vent if need be!

Post # 7
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Honey bee

I have good days and bad days. Someday I loveeee looking at wedding blogs, reading wedding magazines, and contacting 80 million florists. Then other days I dont even want to think about weddings, and I cry thinking about everything we still need to plan/pay for.

Honestly, I wanted to elope, or have a really small (immediate family only) fancy dinner and call it a day. My fiance wants the whole 9 yards so this wedding is a compromise. Ive been lucky because he’s been pretty awesome with helping to plan things.

Post # 9
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963 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

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@HappyBride1211: Yeah, I’m a total control freak and I love doing my own stuff…so the wedding was a DIY nightmare. LOL.  It was fun though.  I have a beautiful brooch bouquet and great invitations that I’m happy to look at and say “I did that!” But the stress – SO GLAD THAT’S OVER!!  Just make it through and you’ll come out married on the other side. 🙂

Post # 10
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106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I was really enjoying wedding planning till my Future Mother-In-Law started have some major mood swings…. nuff said

Post # 11
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5422 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

totally not having fun.  im doing evetything myself for an event i didnt want in the first place.  hope time flies.

 

edit: i realized that may sound bad.  I want to BE married. not a fan of the process to get there.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I loved planning it at first, but after almost a year, I’m just ready for it to be here! I’m sick of having to tie up all of the loose ends and care about every last detail. I’m naturally a type A sort of planner, so I feel like I’ve devoted an insane amount of energy to making sure everything is in order. I don’t hate it, I’m just not enjoying it as much as I was at the beginning–now I feel like it’s less about planning the big picture and more about worrying about the details and what might go wrong.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Some things I did not like. But some things I really have enjoyed. You might just have to figure out what that is. Maybe it’ll just be partying it up at the wedding itself, or when the whole day puts things in perspective?

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I am in the same boat with you. Wedding planning was fine for the most part, but then my friend started bashing all of my DIY/decor ideas and I had a complete meltdown because I felt like an idiot for not standing up to myself and my ideas. Instead I just went home and cried.

Then the family demands starting coming out in the past month about the guest lists. NOT just the guest list for the wedding, but the Rehearsal Dinner. We did have a longer engagement (18 months) what I always wanted, and now I regret it. Shorter the better I say!

The funniest thing that has happened to me is when my sister called me demanding her neighbor (who’s parents are a family friend) be added the guest list, but wait, not just the neighbor + husband + 2 kids, but + their parents + her other sister = 7 PEOPLE. I just said “umm no sorry” and the best part is my sister’s response. She told me she would discuss it with HER husband and get back to me. Few minutes later she called again and said her and her husband decided it was up to me. REALLY?! THANKS!!

As for my FILs’ demands, my Fiance has been good at “negotiating” with them. We will see though, there’s 9 weeks left for them to become even crazier divas.

Just hang in there. And know you’re not alone.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Double post!

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