(Closed) Is anyone NOT having a bridal shower?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I don’t want a bridal shower or a bachelorette party. My girls are out of state and I have told them this, but they are planning to take me out anyway the night before. I think I might have a good time, but I also know, if nothing was happening, I would be perfectly happy with nothing, and I know that I would have no regrets.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

my friends and bridal party have not mentioed a word of it, so I guess I am not having either 🙁

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I’m definatly having a bachy party, not passing that up!  But I’m considering not having a shower since Fiance and I willbe requesting monetary gifs instead of registering for unnecessary household gifts.  I think what will actually happen is that we will have like a party instead of a shower, just with some food and such to celebrate a different way. Anyone else do this??

Post # 6
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Busy bee

I don’t really feel like I need one, and I’m gonna tell my Maid/Matron of Honor that

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’ve asked/told everyone who might be inclined to throw one that we would prefer to have a “couples” shower because I will go bonkers if I have to sit in a room full of my female family members discussing wedding details and how much I love him. BONKERS.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m not having one. I’m moving from GA to OR a few days after the wedding and Fiance and I are selling everything before we move. It’s not really worth having a shower and trying to figure out how to move everything.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am not having it, cause there is no one who can throw it for me. I am ok with that actually.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I am having a Bachelorette party – a bachelorette weekend, actually, this summer in Vegas, which I’m STOKED for!  As far as a bridal shower – I don’t think so.  My Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaids are all over the country, I live away from my family, and nobody has mentioned throwing one.  I could see MAYBE friends here in grad school throwing one, but I’m not counting on it.  Honestly, thinking about it does make me a little sad, but it’s not that big a deal.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

My daughter didn’t but that is because my mom died 1 month before her wedding-So she had 2 baby showers instead! – One for each of her girls-One born in December, One born in June.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Definatley a personal choice,

Fiance and I just want money for the honeymoon, for a house, etc, and we’ve lived together for four years so we don’t need anything.  Also since we don’t have a house now it would stink to get all the “stuff” associated with bridal showers and not have anywhere to put it, and we wouldn’t be able to ask for things that we know would look good in our future house, since we dont know where it’ll be or what it’ll look like! My family is also really scattered so my parents were fine with this, but Future Mother-In-Law went crazy and tried to force me to have one. I prevailed, becuase it just doesn’t make sense for us. 

Plus I really hate being the cnter of attention and opening gifts in front of people is just awkward, not to mention the horrific games. ugh

It’s a tradition I just didn’t feel was “right” for our wedding

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m not having one, for several reasons.

1) We’re not registered anywhere because we don’t feel comfortable asking people for gifts.

2) I’m having a bach weekend in California, and that’s going to be my “get together with my lady friends” time.  I have more female friends on the West Coast than here.

3) It would just generally be difficult to schedule it, since so many of the people we’d want to invite are from out of town. And I don’t want to make people travel more than they already are.

4) Finally, I’m stressed out enough with wedding planning, teaching, and dissertation writing. The idea of a shower is more stressful than fun to me right now.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Bridal showers seem like giant gift-grabs to me. I think it’s one of those weird tacky things that somehow became mainstream and so most people think they’re not tacky. I mean, I had a few Mormon friends who had them and I didn’t find it too weird, because they and their husbands were moving out of their parents’ house and into an apartment that they were seriously only sharing starting the very night of the wedding, so they had nothing. That, I can understand. But most people are not like that now.

Like, if my Fiance and I had any kind of showers right now, it would be ridiculous. We have a fully furnished 3-bedroom house and we will have lived together for nearly 2 years by the time we get married. WTF do we need? (We are not having a registry either.)

I am, however, having a bachelorette party because all my bridesmaids are from out of state and when they come in for the wedding we need to go out and let our hair down for a night.

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

i don’t think i am haveing one one of my girls is haveing her wedding in may and is way raped up in her wedding i can’t even get her to give me a good time to go pick out her bridesmaides dress. i am the moh in her wedding and was forced to get a bridal shower ready with her aunt who lives 300 miles from me even though i have school a son and my wedding but i am ok with it but shw never mentions anything to do with my wedding. Another i can never get ahold of any more ( again still has not picked out her dress) and the third is being so helpful with everything that i don’t want to put it on her shoulders because she is going through a divorse and custady battle and starting her life with her new man and his child so i guess i won’t have one but  i guess it is better off i just hope i get a bachuralet party i want to have one girls night out ( with my son i never get one lol) 

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