(Closed) Is anyone not having a bridal shower/bachelorette party?

posted 4 years ago in Traditions
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I did not have a bridal party or a shower.  I have been to sooooo many showers and been in soooooo many bridal parties…..ugh.     I wanted my wedding to be as simple and stress-free as possible.  I wanted my friends to attend a carefree guests  and not have to host any events.    My girlfriends did throw me a fantastic surprise bachelorette weekend at a downtown hotel, it was great!  I do not feel like I missed out on having a shower; I hate going to them and I could not imagine bring the honoree! 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m not doing either.  I just don’t have a lot of girl friends, plus I don’t really like being the center of  attention.  A small shower I could have handled, but I wouldn’t have liked a traditional bachelorette at all.  I would have wanted something much more low key.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m also having a small wedding ceremony (family only, 30 people max) and I’m not having a shower. Fiance and I have lived together for over three years and already have all the stuff we need. If guests want to bring a gift to the wedding, we’ll graciously accept it but we don’t have a registry or anything. I don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything, since our wedding is about us getting married, not hosting a bunch of events and getting gifts =)

My friends still want to throw a bachelorette party for me even though they aren’t invited to the ceremony. We’ll probably go out for dinner or something, then go to a hotel and sit around drinking wine and playing games. There’s been mention of a penis cake, but I’m not so sure I want that lol.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We had 42 guests (immediate family and close friends). 

I didn’t have a traditional bachlorette party. I just hung out with friends – dinner and conversation. Was about four ladies. My best friend put this together. 

My shower was held at a French restaurant and was a High Tea. I had 15 ladies at my shower – it was lovely and was just good food and conversation. My best friend and mother co-hosted this event. My Maid/Matron of Honor is my SIL and she’s only 18 so they were helping her out. 

We didn’t really forgo anything just because the wedding was smaller. We had a semi-formal event (adult only affair – only children in the bridal party were invited) with all the bells and whistles of a larger wedding. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Royal Park Hotel

We had a small wedding like you’re having 45 guests.  We did a ladies tea which turned out to be a full-on bridal shower.   I was so against a shower because I didn’t want to deal with the stress or have others deal with the stress and I was embarassed to have my aunt send out invites to people who lived thousands of miles away for a bridal shower.

Well my aunt was kind of offended so I said “have at it” and I was shocked that everyone actually flew into town for it.   We had 22 women and it was amazing.  I am SO glad we did it.  I really feel like I would have missed out on an amazing thing if I had passed on it like I wanted to originally.

Just food for thought.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

im not having one either. I moved to where i live now (2000miles away from where i was) 2 years ago and all my close friends still live where I used to and will not come until short before wedding so i dont see any point since here i have only friends that are more mutual and we small talk here and there.. Also i hate being in the center of attention and really am not up for embarrasing penis-theme and other weird stuff (i know here it gets wild)

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

We’re actually having a somewhat large wedding (120 guests) and I have a bridal party, but I’m not having a bridal shower. A majority of the guests (including my BMs) live pretty far away, so I didn’t want to ask people to travel multiple times to celebrate the same event. I also hate being the center of attention, and we don’t need all the presents that go along with a bridal shower. It just feels kind of self-centered to me.

I am, however, having a bachelorette party! I only have 4 BMs but I’m having my 8 closest friends at the bachelorette party. It’s a way to include everyone and I think they’re all more excited about it than I am haha.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

coffeedrinker:  I definitely am not having a shower, and the extent of my bachelorette party is that my bridesmaids and I are going to bring some fun cocktail fixings and some mud masks back to one of the girl’s hotel rooms and hang out and drink and exfoliate in our pajamas.  I feel like the wedding is going to be a pretty damn fun party, so I don’t really feel the need for several parties leading up to it.  Just quality time with people I love.  : )

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’m not going to have either…I only have 2 girl friends who dont live here (they’ll be my Bridesmaid or Best Man at the wedding tho) and my man of honor. For a bridal shower, I personally dont enjoy being the center of attention, so I won’t be dissapointed. And for bachelorette, I don’t like overly tacky-sex-centric stuff anyway; that’s private.

My wedding will be small too; destination for 25 people.

 

 

Post # 13
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Helper bee

I’m not having them.

Both of our families are in different states. I won’t ask them to travel twice. Shower wise, I feel showers are more about gifts and I don’t like the idea of gifts. We have lived together for years. We have nice things. We have money, so if we want something we will buy it. Party wise, I hate being the center of attention and bars are not my idea of fun.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I had a super low key bridal shower. I really didn’t want people to bring gifts so no one did and my small party chipped in to treat me to high tea. It was just my 3 bridesmaids, my mom, and my closest cousin. It was lovely!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

coffeedrinker:  I didn’t, but I ended up being pretty bummed about no bach party. I definiyely didn’t want to do anything crazy, but it would have been nice for someone to plan a little something. I ended up asking everyone to go get pedicures a couple weeks before the wedding. 

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