Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
Who is going to walk you down the aisle instead? Or are you walking by yourself?
My dad died when I was 18. Right now, I’m thinking of three options:
- Having my mom walk me down the aisle
- Walking down the aisle myself
- Walking down the aisle with the boy.
I’m leaning towards #2 but I like the idea of #3 – entering the ceremony area with the boy sounds so nice.
Post # 3
Wow, number 3 is really cool! FH wouldn’t like it–he’s surprisingly traditional, he wouldn’t even consider a first look.
I am going to have my mom walk me down the aisle. I know she was hurt that my sister had only my dad walk her down the aisle, and I think it’s only fair. Plus, it’s something that I really wanted since I was a kid (weird, I know), I just never had much of a relationship with my dad. I just always thought that my mom deserved the spotlight for raising us, no matter what tradition says.
Post # 4
I am fairly certain I am going to walk down alone. My Dad is around, but we don’t have a fantastic relationship… I would just be more comfortable going it solo. I don’t need/want anyone to give me away, I feel it will be more symbolic for me to go it alone. Good luck deciding!
Post # 5
My dad died when I was a teenager. I have a very small family – my mom and my brother (no aunts, uncles…). So, I’m having both my mom and my brother walk me down the aisle. Seems appropriate.
Post # 6
My dad died when I was 12 so I had the same options…
Personally, I wanted to come in by myself OR with Fiance. FI didn’t like that idea very much. bleh. hah – I’ve seen a couple pics where they walk in together and I just think its a beautiful sentiment. Coming in together… Another bride on here was thinking through the same issue and I think she decided to walk half way down by herself, and then Fiance would come up and meet her and walk the rest of the way. Its so sybolic I want to cry haha
My 19 yr old brother ended up asking if he could walk me down. It was too sweet to turn down. Not my first pick, but it’ll be nice.
Do you think your mom would want to walk you down? I asked mine if she’d want to walk me down or watch me come down. She wanted to watch!
Have you asked the boy about walking in with you? – the halfway thing might be nice b/c he’ll get to see you come in AND walk with you.
Post # 7
My dad died in November, so I’m going to have my grandfather (my dad’s dad) walk me down.
My mom & I think it would be too hard emotionally to walk down together. We’d probably be sobbing by the time we got to the altar
I do like your #3. It seems very modern & empowering. Great for the bride who hates the idea of being given away.
Post # 8
I’m having my little brother walk me down the aisle. We’re 10 years apart, we have a great relationship. My dad isn’t involved in my life we have’nt spoke in 7yrs 🙁 I do have a step-father and a great relationship with my grand-father but I didn’t want to choose between them so I figured my little brother would be the best choice.
Post # 9
My dad walked me while his mom walked him to the top of the aisle and then me and the groom walked the rest of the way together.
Post # 10
I’m sorry for all of the bees that have lost their fathers. Hugs all around. My father is alive however, we don’t really have that father-daughter relationship. My son is walking me down the aisle.
Post # 11
I’ve seen all kinds of options and I think a bride walking herself down the aisle is both powerful and beautiful (and totally acceptable). If that’s how you’re leaning, go right ahead!
Post # 13
I’ve had two friends who lost their fathers, both had their mothers walk them down. I’ve also had a friend who walked down with her Fiance and regretted not being able to have her “first look moment”. They had chosen to do it because they wanted to walk down with their child.
Personally I think it’s very dramatic to have the bride walk down on her own, if you can handle it. I know personally I am a blubbering mess (for both happy and sad moments) and need someone walking me down to keep me from tearing up too much.
Post # 14
Although I have both my parents, I walked together with the boy. It was a very special and powerful moment. This way we reduced the show effect that usually comes with the grand entrance (especially if you’re not into the “look at me” moment). So I would recommend option #3.
Post # 15
My younger brother is walking me down. My father left when I was 5 and we were never close.
My friend is walking by herself and her mom will meet her at the alter to give her away. Mine is doing the same.
Post # 16
My girlfriend lost both of her adoptive parents at a young age and she wasn’t close to any of her siblings, so she walked down the aisle by herself. It was lovely! 🙂