(Closed) Is anyone worried about not being a “pretty bride”?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

You’re not alone. I have this fear every day in general but also with the wedding. I don’t see myself the way others do I suppose.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am a firm believer in beauty coming from how you feel on that day. If you are full of love and happiness, your pictures will show that. Pretty people are only pretty when they genuinely smile 🙂

Both of you will be beautiful because you’re going to be glowing with joy. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I worry about it alot too, but I know it’s silly. I’ll focus in on tiny things, like my pores, or how bits of my hair won’t stay down, etc. But I think the key is, to first and foremost, remember that the happiness alone will make you beautiful on your wedding day, and none of your guests are going to see you and think anything other than how amazing you look, because the experiance of getting married will be all over your face, and it will be obvious that you’ve worked hard to achieve your dressed up look!

But to make yourself feel better, do a lot of pre-work! Collect pics of hairstyles and see how they work with your face and your dress, practice with makeup, have a girls night where you trade beauty secrets. If you know on your wedding day that you’ve done the homework, then you’ll know you’re looking the best you can!

(I don’t know if this counts for anything, but it’s not pics of other brides that bother me, it’s pics of my moms wedding. She always thinks I’m just joking or being too sweet, but honestly, I’ve been doing everything possible to keep my wedding very similar to hers, and I just think she was the most beautiful bride I’ve ever seen. If I can look anything like my mamma on her wedding day, I’ll be happy!) 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I feel like that. I’m worried about being the ugliest person in my wedding party. My bridesmaids are gorgeous, and two of them I’ve grown up hearing my entire life how gorgeous they are from… well, everyone.

I’m not in love with my dress, either. I wanted to lose 60 pounds, I lost 25.

That all being said, I agree with what others say about being joyful on the wedding date. I have two sets of pictures of me in my dress – one with my hair done, veil on, dress pinned, and me looking worried. The other, my hair is back and messy, no veil, and I’m smiling. I look way, way better in the second set.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

YES!  I also worry about this almost everyday of my life…. It’s calmed down a lot in the last few years…. But, I detest all of the pictures that I’ve seen of myself in my wedding dress (trying it on in the wrong size, hair not done, little makeup…. it’s never a “good” time.) Anyways, I pray that it’ll all come together.  When I look at myself in the mirror I think the whole “look” looks great… but I hope that it comes through in pictures.  Everyone at work/ everywhere keeps telling me they can’t wait to see my wedding pictures b/c I’ll make such a gorgeous bride…. but I worry!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think brides are beautiful because they are the best version of themselves on their wedding day. Their hair and make-up are done, they’re wearing a dress perfectly tailored for them, they’re glowing with happiness, etc.

Your family and Fiance want to see you all gussied up that day. Not anyone else. No other bride compares to you in their eyes.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You are definitely not alone. I lack self-esteem on a daily basis, and I worry constantly about my appearance on my wedding day. And, while it shouldn’t be a competition, I know four other people all getting married in the same month I am, and I worry that once the photos hit Facebook, everyone will be comparing the weddings, and I won’t measure up as a bride. I feel ashamed for feeling this way, but it’s always in the back of my mind. Hopefully, I, and all other bees having these feelings can move past them. Best wishes to all!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yes, yes, yes!

I worry about this….a lot….

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You are not alone in feeling this way. I am an ugly duckiing and a serious tomboy but something just happens on your wedding day! You glow. Some practical advice though would be to: drink tons and tons of water leading up to the day, keep weights close by and do arm curls when you are watching TV, use sunless tanning moisturizer all over your body, set a day to stop stressing about wedding details. 

 

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I know how you feel! I’m not very glamorous, and although I wear makeup frequently, I have very short hair and am pretty chunky. I absolutely HATE photos of myself, to the point that I can’t look at them, so I’m slightly dreading the wedding photos. Because of my hair I know I’ll never look like the perfect, princess-y, romantic bride, and even trying on dresses I look so unnatural. I would love to lose 50lb (I have 17 months until the bug day) but I worry I won’t be able to. It also doesn’t help that 3 of my 4 bridesmaids are skinny, and two are mixed race and beautifully tanned with lovely hair and are generally gorgeous (whereas I’m persistently white as a ghost). 

Sorry – admit one to the pity party!

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

OMG I have been freaking out about this ever since I was little! LOL! When I look back at pics from prom or dances or anything that I was supposed to dress up for, I think ‘ugh why do I look so horrible!’ I don’t want this to happen with my wedding! I am so afraid I am gonna get a pimple, or my make up will look gross or my hair wont hold its curl or something!

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yes! I hate my teeth and since my relationship/engagement/wedding all came up in less than two years time, there isn’t really anything I can do about it! I have a rather significant gap and planned on braces in the near future, but that money had to go towards the wedding  :o(

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I am worried about being a pretty bride… My Maid/Matron of Honor might as well be a model, my sister is stunning, skinny and tall, my 2nd moh is dark eyes/dark hair/fair complexion and pretty, and my baby sister who will be 9 is just the prettiest little thing you’ve ever seen.. I am petrified that I will not shine the way I want to…

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I was completely worried about it. There’s so much hype, esp. nowadays when everyone and her sister gets blogged. I still feel like I looked just “normal” in my pictures compared to many of the brides I see, but that’s probably just because I know my own face too well.

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