Post # 32
@Mrslawyer2bee: Yes. What you said! My engagement ring was in my husbands family and got passed down to him to give to me. It is a diamond cluster ring and I would have never in a million years picked it because I do not wear diamonds. I agree with the functionality piece that they can be tedious because I use my hands a lot in my profession and the engagement ring bugged me so much I took it off and now solely wear my gold wedding band.
That being said, here’s a sweet story about our matching gold wedding bands: We wanted to support our local jewelry shop (they do so many good things for our local community)so we brought in a bunch of gold that I had never worn or got as present and my husband had gotten from his side of the family and had it all melted down to make both our wedding bands. The designer, who rocked and gave us so much time and personal attention, said that the rings would be cast at the same time. Soo sweet!
I know we are talking about diamonds but I’ve read that the gold industry can be very environmentally damaging. If you are concerned about this, you could ask your jeweler if they support the No Dirty Gold campaign.
This was an interesting thread to read. Personally, I enjoy diamonds but there just not for me.
Post # 33
Yep. Me. I hate diamonds.
Post # 34
Everyone around me pretty much has a diamond engagement ring. I have one friend who decided to go with something else just because she wanted to. I don’t know anyone who is against diamonds. I think most of the people around me are against big diamonds. They just don’t see a point in spending money on something big. My Fiance just wanted me to have something nice since this is my first diamond. I have a ton of gemstone rings, so that isn’t anything special to me, except my first e-ring, which was an alexandrite. If I would have seen the yellow moissanite when I was getting engaged, I would have asked for that.
Post # 35
I’m not a fan of diamonds. I wrote more about why at this link. We didn’t have engagement rings, and have plain gold bands for our wedding rings. But I wouldn’t challenge someone else who chose to wear a diamond.
Post # 36
I feel the need to mention that metals such as silver and gold are just as questionable as diamonds and have similar environmental and social implications.
Post # 37
No, I’m not against diamonds. Or any other stone.
I never thought I would want a diamond ring (or anything diamond for that matter), but once my engagement ring was slipped on my finger, it was perfect for me. Just enough sparkle and elegance to reflect my personality. I hope to one day pass it down as an heirloom in my future family. We also felt comfortable knowing my stones were mined ethically (ceritfied from the Kimberely Process).
To each his/her own! 🙂
Post # 38
I don’t know anyone who has ever spoken out about being against diamonds. The only place I’ve heard this is here on the Bee.
Post # 40
I’m not completely against them persay, and I’ve never met anyone 100% against them, but I’d rather not have one. I love moissanite, and how sparkly they are. Some people complain that they can be too yellow, but I kinda sorta like it, and my SO and I love the price tag. I’m not going to lie and say that I don’t love the LOOK of diamonds, and that’s why moissanite is perfect for us. I don’t look down upon people who chose diamonds, or will only accept them. My best friend will not accept anything other than a diamond and we don’t bother each other about our own opinions. (luckily she has a stone that has been handed down in her family).
I think I would be upset ,though, if my SO gave me a ring and led me to believe that it was something it wasn’t. I would also never try to pass off a moissanite as a “real” diamond. If someone asked, I would politely tell them that this is what me and my SO felt in our hearts was right for us 🙂
Post # 41
This is interesting to me. I have a diamond ring, that I love, and I have NO idea where it was from. The anti-diamond sentiment isn’t something I have seen IRL, but lots online.
ANY type of mining, gold, silver, diamond, or any other gem that doesn’t come from a lab has a ecological and ethical problem attached. Of course the same can be said of our use of petrolum products, imported goods from slave labor ect… but people don’t like jumping on those band wagons nearly so much because it is much more of an inconvenience to not use gas or import food/products.
Post # 42
@elimel123: You bring up some great points. I’ve also considered the issues with metal mining. Jewelers often recycle their metals, which helps a little, but I love the idea of melting down old jewelry to create both rings. My local jeweler actually told me of a couple she did this for! I unfortunately don’t have enough “white” metal for this, though…
I’ve never heard of the No Dirty Gold campaign – I’ve got to look into that!
Great points you make in that link. As for feeling unsafe, I’d either turn my stone in facing my palm or wear a plain band while traveling. As for traditional proposals, I actually created a post about that!
Post # 43
While I think that they are pretty, I just have never wanted one myself. I have always just wanted a star sapphire for a wedding ring, one just like my moms. I would never “shun” someone for having one, I find that to be a rediculous reason to “shun” someone.
Post # 44
I wasn’t against diamonds, but got a mossainite ring because it was more economical and just because no one can tell the difference. I didn’t want to spend 5k on a ring I can get for 2k. Also the idea of a diamond is not as rare as everyone believed which was what originally made it a booming market.
A friend of mine is COMPLETELY against diamonds and refuses to ever by diamonds because most of the diamonds in the world (her words, not mine) are conflict or blood diamonds from Africa. After hearing that and educating myself about blood/conflict diamonds, I no longer have the erge to ever purchase a diamond. I’ll stick to mossainite!
Post # 45
No. I love my diamond ring though.
Post # 46
@chasesgirl: That’s why it’s so great that people are moving towards recycled gold, antique and heirloom, fair trade gems. So many options out there!