(Closed) Is anyone else really sensitive over wedding issues?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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9548 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’d recommend to stop looking at wedding blogs and pinterest and bridal magazines. They have a tendancy to make us competitive and give us unrealistic ideas of what a wedding should be. Focus on what’s really important. Marrying the man of your dreams. Not dresses or decorations.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - The Skinner Barn

I’ve definitely found myself snapping at my mother more lately. I like to keep everything “big picture” and not fuss over the tiny details, but the details seem to be all my mother thinks about. We just announced our engagement over Christmas and my mother is already freaking out about when I’m going to finish my registry. Is anyone really planning on buying me a gift next week? She also has extremely antiquated ideas of what a wedding should look like and tends to give me hell about my mis-matched bridesmaids, lack of wedding cake, and justice of the peace officiant. I don’t want to stress about a wedding that is still 9 months out and that I’ve already planned majorly for, so I get kind of defensive when my decisions are challenged or I’m pressured to begin planning for something I’m not ready for yet.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

This definitely happened to me. I felt like with so many moving parts (and opinions) that I felt a severe lack of control which gave me anxiety. I am pretty type A. The good news is that you are almost to the burn out stage where you stop caring and regain your perspective!! 😉

Post # 7
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3580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@springwed8:  sooooon, my dear. I say a couple more weeks.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I find myself getting defensive about our wedding sometimes! Its really stupid but I have worked really hard on most parts of the wedding that aren’t vendors, and little things set me off lol. I have no idea when this started happening! I feel like an alien has taken over!

Don’t mind me, I’ve just finished embossing stamps onto the back of our Save the Dates. EMBOSSING. What the hell is wrong with me, theyre just paper!!

But they look so pretty now..

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yes. I’ve been asking my future in laws for their part of the guest list for months on end. They are still waffling on if they’re inviting some people or not. My future Father-In-Law does not want to order his tux far in advance because he wants to lose weight. It’s like they don’t understand that I want things nailed down far in advance so I don’t go nuts later on trying to cram details in at the last second. They keep bringing up “keeping the cost down” and that gets my fiance stressed about the money thing. But we’re not going over our budget, they’re not paying for the wedding, and we’re being very reasonable about what we are getting. 

The most frustrating comment is “you don’t really need        “



Yes, I could get married in a burlap sack, yes we would still be married without table runners, yes, hiring a harpist for the ceremony is a bit foo foo. Oh my gee, mind your beeswax and let me plan out something special. I don’t think you have to have nothing special on your day just becuase you could get away with less. 

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m not bc I’m used to people having something to say about EVERYTHING so I just let it slide off. However, I have learned to keep my mouth shut in regards to other people’s weddings. I also notice it here on weddingbee where people get all upset over other people’s opinions or people say unnecessary/snide remarks over certain topics.

Post # 13
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1227 posts
Bumble bee

We’re pretty much paying for everything ourselves (my mom has ended up chipping in a big chunk, because she wanted to buy my attire, and upgrade my photgraphy package) so I limit any discussions about it to basically my Fiance and my vendors.  If I don’t talk about it to people, they can’t give me opinions that I may or may not like.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I can totally relate! You are definitely not alone!

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Stop talking to other people about your plans.

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