Post # 1
My fiance and I are trying to pick our first dance song. We want something that means something to us rather than picking a random but traditional first dance song. The problem is that all the songs that do have meaning to us aren’t really love songs. The song we really want is “You’re Beautiful” by James Blunt. Well I guess it’s kind of a love song but if you listen to the lyrics it’s about how the guy will never be with the girl and then in the music video the guy commits suicide at the end. So not really the message we want at our wedding. But our reasoning for wanting this song is because it was really popular when we first got together and my Fi would sing it to me in a mocking high pitched voice (it was really cute!). Then it was also the first song we slow danced to. So yeah, I think even though this song doesn’t really have the best message, it would be really sweet to dance to. But i don’t want guests to think that we are just oblivious to the real message of the song or that we purposely picked this song with the terrible message. Should we look for a different song? Or maybe we could just have the DJ make a disclaimer before we dance about our reason for picking the song?
Post # 3
I’ve never seen the video, or really paid that close of attention to the lyrics. I assumed it was a love song, and I think most people will assume the same. Having the DJ make a disclaimer would be weird, I think.
On another note, you should do what you like, and what has significance to you guys as a couple.
Post # 4
Just dance to the song that means the most to you as a couple. We ALMOST danced to “Pour Some Sugar on Me” because it was the first song we ever danced to together, but in the end we opted for something more lovey-dovey. The one thing I would say is get the radio edit version to play it safe. 🙂
Post # 5
There are lots of songs out there to choose from for a first dance and one with an underlying message of the guy never being with the girl he wants…not so nice imo. What about picking another song for the first dance and having “You’re Beautiful” played by the DJ at some other point in the night?
Our first dance song was “Then” by Brad Paisley, the acoustic version. Check it out if you’ve never heard it. It really didn’t mean anything to us before hearing it, but it’s a great first dance song.
Post # 6
If it’s the song you consider “your” song, then screw the implications of the song and dance to it! 🙂 Ours isn’t really a “love” song or a typical first-dance song either. “Never Gonna Be Alone” by Nickelback. lol. We don’t care. It was the first song we danced to, it’s “our” song. So it’s appropriate that it’s going to be the first song we dance to as a married couple.
Post # 7
dance to it and enjoy it! i would not have the DJ make a disclaimer though – that would just draw too much attention and make people think about it – im willing to bet that most people assume its a love song and havent really thought about the lyrics
Post # 8
@farmgirl2106: Haha, good point about the radio edit! 🙂