(Closed) Is asking him to surprise me with the honeymoon cute or idiotic?

posted 8 years ago in Honeymoons
  • poll: Surprise honeymoon! Thoughts?

    What a fun idea!

    Eh, neither here nor there...

    You are one dumb bunny.

  • Post # 17
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Nona99:  Duluth, MN, right?

    Post # 18
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    @Duncan:  yeah

    Post # 19
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Nona99:  yeah it was a fun trip from Thunder Bay.  Same size, more stuff.

    Post # 20
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @jennmariee:  I would LOVE a surprise trip! Such a great idea! A great way to demonstrate you trust your partner – a perfect way to start off your marriage. 

    Post # 21
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think it could be fun, if he’s willing.  Maybe you could set some basic parameters and then he can go from there?

    Post # 22
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I was torn between “fun idea” and “dumb.” It depends on you and your man. If he’s the type that doesn’t like to plan things out, and you are, it could go wrong. If you don’t care what you two do or if he has activities in mind, it’ll be nice.

    Post # 23
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    It depends what kind of people you are. If you’re easygoing and your Fiance is great at anticipating your wants/needs and booking stuff like this, then maybe it’s a good idea.

    My SO would know that a hiking trip where I’d have to stay in a hostel is my idea of hell, and never book it, for example.. so I would trust him to know me well enough.. but at the same time, I’m very Type A and can’t imagine not having a say/knowing where we’re going.

    Post # 24
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    Honey Beekeeper

    It would never work for me then or now. In my mind as  much of the pleasure of a trip is in the anticipation.  I love to read up about a place, learn about the history, watch films and read books that feature the venue and if a foreign language is spoken have the chance to learn a few words and phrases. I would love to have someone plan out the itinerary, book the excursions and the hotel and all that, but I’d want to know where we were going. 

    It would also drive me crazy not knowing exactly how to pack and I wouldn’t necessarily trust H to get that part of it  right! 

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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    I am doing the same thing. I have enough craziness with the wedding I told him to surprise me.  He knows me well enough and is very capable to plan out a trip on his own for the both of us. I’m super thrilled at not having to worry or stress about it. You should go for it! It would be fun!! As for packing, i always pack a few bathing suits a few formal dresses and casual clothing. I think that would be fine for where ever we go. Unless its a snow trip of course lol

    Post # 26
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I like to plan ahead, especially for trips, so a surprise honeymoon would stress me out.

    Post # 27
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    @jennmariee:  I would want to know where we were going. Not only that, I’d want a say in where we were going. Not that I don’t trust Fiance (we actually ended up landing on the same resort), but I just think something as important as a honeymoon should be a mutual decision. Imagine on the off chance that you hate where he chooses…Not a nice way to start off the marriage.

    Post # 28
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    @weddingmaven:  +1. That’s a great compromise. You decide on a location together, but he can plan out the schedule. I love to research where I’m going as well (to the point of being OCD), so I could never relinquish control! Lol. Fiance knew what he was getting into 😛

    Post # 29
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Fiance is planning our honeymoon. I want a surprise! 

    Post # 30
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    To me, it just depends on how well your fiance can actually plan and carry through with a great destination, with activities and awesome things to do. If it were me I would maybe ask my husband to surprise me a little bit (like plan one day of the trip, a surprise excursion or activity), but then stay on top of the rest. If I told my husband to surprise me with the whole thing I would need to have a camera ready because the blank look on his face would be a Kodak moment. 

    Post # 31
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    Sugar bee

    @jennmariee:  I would never do that personally.  With DH and me, we either plan things together equally, or I plan them.  I can’t imagine what DH would come up with on his own!

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