(Closed) Is being a new mom really that bad?

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 47
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My mom has been telling me its mostly about experience and practice.

With her first kid she said it took two of them hours to get him bathed and fed and she is not sure why.

With her third kid she said she literally was breast feeding #3, talking on the phone and making meatballs with her free hand while the other two kids were playing with toys in the kitchen (she kept kid toys and kid safe stuff in a special cabinet in the kitchen)

Like lots of things, its practice and priorities. 

Post # 48
923 posts
Busy bee

when my daughter was born I was a single mom living with lived my sister and then my daughter and I were in the hospital for a week after she was born, so when we got out the last thing I wanted to do was be cooped up inside all day. We left the house almost every day and I managed to look decent almost all of the time! I wore sweats around the house but we managed to keep the house pretty tidy and I cooked dinner most nights. Some days you might be totally overwhelmed and exhausted but other days you feel great and the baby is easier, you get through it! I think if it is important for you to shower, put makeup on and leave the house every day you will find a way to do that. I honestly was more exhausted when she started crawling because I had to watch her like a hawk!

Post # 49
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I have a 21 month old. Definitely been harder with her now than as a newborn. As some PP’s have said, she gets into everything! Thankfully our morning routine has been pretty easy. her and I actually shower together! It’s so much easier that way because I know she’s not getting into everything and we also get to bond, she loves when I hold her under the shower. 🙂 I put my makeup on and get dressed while she’s eating breakfast in her high chair. we have had a night time and morning time routine with her since she was born. It made everything so much smoother. Routines are key I believe. I EBF for the first 3 months and so that was an adjustment as I had to be with her constantly. But, we eventually rotated between bottles and breast so i was able to get breaks, leave the house on my own and such. It will get better!

Post # 51
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

it TOTALLY depends on the child! so yes, for some moms, it really is that bad. my baby is a little bit colicky and is high needs so i find that i have very little time to do anything for myself when i’m home alone (including eating, showering, getting myself dressed/put on makeup). i usually end up taking a shower at night after my husband is home. i rarely leave the house (especially not by myself) because my son cries so much and it’s very anxiety provoking. i agree that being a new mom can definitely be mentally, physically, and emotionally exhausting.

Post # 52
1297 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think it really depends on the baby. I have a somewhat fussy one doesn’t sleep well at night. She is 3.5 weeks  and she’s been sleeping no more than 2 1/2 hours at a time at night. I am pretty exhausted but I still find the time to do the things that I need to get done. I always shower every day, either when shes asleep or calm in her swing. I manage to cook dinner for my husband a couple of times a week, I do laundry, I make the bed, wash dishes,.and tidy up the house….But, somedays it’ll be 2 PM and I realize I haven’t eaten or had anything to drink all day. Some days I have been pooped on, peed on, spitit up on after I showered and have no time to shower again until my husband gets home. I have not blown out my hair or put makeup on since shes arrived, but im kinda liking the au naturale look 🙂

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