(Closed) Is being a newlywed overrated?

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: What do you think???
    This feeling is normal you should feel the same : (13 votes)
    29 %
    What you don't feel different you are insane!!!! : (2 votes)
    4 %
    As long as you are happy you should feel however you wish to feel : (30 votes)
    67 %
    Comments : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Did you live with your Darling Husband before? Did you go on a honeymoon?

    I notice that people who already lived with their spouse and didn’t go on a honeymoon and instead went back to their everydy activities didn’t see that much of a difference.

    I know Darling Husband and I traveled and got to enjoy every moment away from reality just the two of us, so it helped the wedding sink in a little before we came back to our repsonsibilities. But the truth is marriage doesn’t change anything. You are still the same people you were two weeks ago with the same life. As long as you are happy, then I say you are ahead of the game 🙂

    Post # 4
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    It was the same for us. We lived together for many years prior to getting married so after it was official, it didn’t really feel any different. I mean, just being his “wife” instead of girlfriend or fiancée is awesome but overall, everything stayed pretty much the same. When it was still fresh for us (like it is for you), I was searching for that different feeling but then I realized that I didn’t really need it. I loved my life with my fiancé before so why should my life with my husband feel any different? 

    Post # 5
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    14484 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I felt the same.  The honeymoon was great, and we had a fun trip, but honestly, it still just sort of felt like another trip.  We came back home to the house we’d bought and lived in a year earlier.. and life just continued the same.  I dont think you’re weird. It took me a few months to change my name too, and while a new name was weird… it wasnt a big deal either.

    Post # 6
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    4313 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I was really happy & I noticed things were a bit different even though we lived together before.  Almost 2 years later & I find it still very exciting.  However, everyone is different & as long as you are happy together — that’s what’s important.  Congrats!

    Post # 8
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    7311 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    Nah, things weren’t magically different after the wedding. Over time we’ve both noticed subtle changes. Our relationship feels even deeper and even more secure than it did when we were engaged. But from the perspective of an outsider looking at us, the only difference is that I now wear a bit more bling on my left hand. We’re still the same couple, raising the same kid, with the same crazy cats, having the same tickle battles and political spats, etc. Life goes on.

    Post # 9
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    1285 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We lived together prior to getting married and honeymooned several months after the wedding. It wasn’t an overall magical “honeymoon” phase, but a gradual difference I felt, like we are more of a team. I also noticed that decisions and heavy discussions are easier because we know the other person is also 100% committed. So no magic, but it does feel better.

    Post # 10
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    3799 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We felt the same and still feel the same. We were married June 1st.

    His dad said, “Oh I bet you feel a lot better as a couple, more stable now that you are married” and it really pissed me off. We were stable before the wedding and we are still. I was just irritated because if anything, I feel more constricted. I can’t just leave now if something really bad happens. I know a lot of people feel joy and happiness and glitter flies around them when they walk after their wedding, but for me I feel sort of constricted. I guess the feeling will go away.

    I think there are a wide variety of emotions that a newlywed can feel. I think after a year or so I will feel better…I’m glad we got married but I did not expect for things to feel so “final”.

    Post # 11
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I think it just depends on your personalities. We have 4 other couple friends that got married within a month of us and some are over the moon and for some it is same ol same ol. We all lived together before hand and all but 1 couple has kids. So yeah it is just personality based. We are over the moon but we waited forever to have that permanent, settled feeling and went through alot of crazy family drama to get here.

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