(Closed) Is being conventional really that bad?

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It’s not bad for you or the millions of brides like you, but it is for this event coordinator who deals in weddings all day.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Nah, not bad at all. But when weddings are your business, I’m sure having an offbeat, different one keeps it interesting every once in awhile and is something you feel like gushing over.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think she probably finds the conventional weddings boring because she’s done so many.  I don’t think there’s anything wrong with traditional or conventional if that’s what you want.  But, I can see someone who works in weddings day-in and day-out getting really excited for something new and different!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I like conventional wedding the most. They feel dignified and respectful and what the day is really supposed to be about: a marriage, not a show.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

She probably just wanted to speak positively about *something* to make conversation, and if the wedding is offbeat it gives an obvious topic. 

If you’d been with her in a super-traditional wedding, I’m sure she would have been talking about something else. 

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@starrynight:  She should have kept her mouth shut, plain and simple. Clearly she’s just jaded about her job. A lot of us are… but that’s no excuse to say this sort of thing to you (a stranger) since she had no idea what your thoughts on the matter were. I don’t think there’s anything wrong w. a traditional affair. Whatever floats your boat.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

I can understand her sentiment because she sees tons of weddings every year, but her feeling doesn’t matter!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think the event planner just likes to work with off-beat brides because it keeps it fresh for her from time to time. I’m sure for as many event planners that like the unconventional weddings, there are as many who prefer conventional weddings. It sucks that she made you feel the way she did regarding your preferences by overly gushing, but I wouldn’t take it to heart or make you think differently about yours.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Whenever you do the same thing day in and day out it’s excited to do something new. Like if you work in an office all the time and get to go run errands or work outside for awhile you LOVE it, but if you did that all the time you’d end up hating it too.

Do whatever fits you, other people will always have opinions.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@starrynight:  I hear you on that. Some of the most beautiful beautiful, unique, and interesting weddings are the ones where people go above and beyond for shock value. But in the end I look at those as “events” and not “weddings”. To me, a wedding is about two people joining their hearts and their lives forever. It is a thing to honor and cherish and not make a joke of or shock people with. If in the end they remember your wedding theme or your decorations more than they remember the love they saw on that day, something was horribly amiss.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m proud to be conventional and vanilla.  I loved our outdoor wedding antraditional wedding reception.  

I feel like now it’s becoming the new popular thing to be unconventional and thus it’s getting worn out.  There are only so many ways to reinvent the wheel.  I don’t mean any disrespect to those offbeat brides.  It works for some people.  What bugs me is when it doesn’t seem like it fits the couple’s personality but they just want to go against the grain.  

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper

I think the wedding planner was probably just excited to be doing something different. The same way anyone who works might get excited about a special project that is different from their day to day job.

At the end of the day there is no right or wrong way to have a wedding (barring being rude to guests that is always wrong)- just your way. It is different for every bride and groom and every wedding is different even if they follow the same basic format. It is the people and personal touches that make a wedding and for some that is simple and traditional and for others it is over the top or unconventional.

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