Post # 1
I’m Chinese, I’m not having a traditional Chinese wedding, but I planned to incorporate some Chinese wedding elements into the wedding. The wedding is outdoors, in the afternoon in a garden, with a reception in a nearby reception hall. The only Chinese element I have planned so far is to add in some double happiness signs in the invitation, the program, and some of the decorations.
I wanted my wedding colors to be an indigo blue and a apple-olive green because I like those colors and they go well with the fresh/garden theme and the colors of the reception room. My dad is not very traditional, but when I told him that those were my colors, he said blue was unlucky and I shouldn’t use it. He said I didn’t have to do red, but green was ok, and so was pink, orange, cream, purple, brown — basically any color other than blue or black. Though sky blue was somewhat ok?
I’m surprised my not very traditional dad thought this was important enough to change. He said our relatives who get the invitation will not be pleased at the blue in them. I know that red is traditional (but I don’t like red), I didn’t know that blue was bad. Is this common knowledge? Is it bad enough that I should change?
Post # 3
I looked this up online and the only place I found that even mentioned blue was this:
http://www.chinatownconnection (dot) com/chinese-superstitions (dot) htm
and that doesn’t even say that blue is unlucky necessarily, it just said it’s unlucky to wear it.
I would ask myself two questions:
1.) Do you really think that your marriage will fail because you had blue in the wedding?
2.) Is their "disapproval" bothersome enough to you to just change the color so you don’t have to worry about them, or is it not that big of a deal?
Above all it is your wedding, do what will keep YOU happy, but if their reactions will stress you out, I might explore other options. Indigo is so close to purple, why not just use a deep grape color which would be just as beautiful?
I hope this helps!
Post # 4
I don’t think blue is unlucky, because I went to two very traditional weddings in Taiwan and both brides had a blue gown on during the reception. The blue they were wearing was a bit lighter than indigo blue, but it is still blue.
I think if you have the red double happiness, it should be Chinese enough. Will you be serving tea to the parents? For my destination wedding I didn’t have any Chinese theme at all, but I did serve tea to my in-laws in a red dress before we flew off to Cancun. Maybe that’ll keep your dad happy?
Post # 5
I don’t know a lot about traditional Chinese wedding traditions, but I’ve noticed they use a lot of red.
I think if you want to do blue and green, you should. I don’t think a color will bring you bad luck 🙂 Blue means calmness and serenity, I think that’s a great message to send.
Post # 6
I think the only color to really avoid is black as it is a symbol of bad luck.
Post # 7
Thanks, I feel better. I would have reconsidered the color scheme if it was such a no-no that my guests would gasp in horror if they were to open their invitations and see the blue color within, but that does not appear to be the case!
Post # 8
Well my EX mother in law once told me that black was bad luck because I wanted my bridesmaids dresses to be the LBD.
Um. She was wrong! Needless to say after five years being single, I am getting married and we’re gonna do the little black dress for the bridesmaids now and my colors are aqua (blue), pink, and black for accent.
Post # 9
i had a somewhat similar experience but to a lesser degree. i wanted to include the double happiness sign on our chinese inserts but i wanted to make it blue. my dad said that it was never done before and it’s better to stick to red or pink or gold just so it wouldn’t look "funny". my dad is also non-traditional but i guess there are a few things he’s rather traditional about.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2008 - St. Catherine of Genoa, Jin Asian Cuisine Restaurant
Technically speaking, blue is an unlucky color for Chinese weddings, but then again, so is white. These two colors are considered death or funeral colors (especially, don’t wear one of these colors in your hair!).
That said, I obviously still wore a white dress, and my bridesmaids wore blue. My family isn’t very traditional. The one thing my dad requested was no blue invitations. I had originally wanted navy invites, but dad said no. I ended up just using a reddish and gold invite, even though red was not in my color scheme. I figure, no one was going to carry around the invitation at the wedding, therefore it wasn’t that obvious that it didn’t match my scheme.
So, I guess my advice to you is: try to weigh how important it is for you to have blue in your invites, and how important it is for your dad that they not contain blue. Maybe you can meet half way, Maybe he wouldn’t mind just a little bit of blue, and you can just give up a little bit of blue?
Post # 11
Toucan — Yes, the invitations were the thing my dad was most concerned about not being blue! Your dad and mine must be getting this tradition from the same place.
I had originally wanted the pocketfold to be indigo/navy blue, but now maybe I’ll make the pocketfold cream, but do the invitation mat in a lighter blue. That’s some blue, but not as much or as obvious if the blue was in the pocketfold, and dad said sky blue was ok. I think I’ll run that by him.
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2008 - Vineyard on the Delta
i know blue and white are colors worn for chinese funerals (especially like a flower on the head, like toucan said). i feel you on the not wanting red to be the wedding color but i went with it for ease (enough headaches associates w/ wedding as it is…) and though i don’t love the color scheme, i’m still glad i did it. saved me so many arguements with the fam.
Post # 13
Sky blue, aqua blue and baby blue are okay. The only blue that I think is bad is navy blue.
Cause Chinese describ people whose face is pale from being sick as having a "blue face".
Navy blue is not a very happy color to being with anyway, don’t you think so?