(Closed) is BM dress cost worth it?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I did feel bad and we looked at non-bridal stores, and we couldn’t find anything below 150, let alone with all of their sizes.  Plus an off the rack dress that magically fits everyone is not a reality.  Some of the girls are going to have to have alterations, and then they are going to have to find an independant alterations shop to do the work.  Maybe it is where I am from, but the only dresses I found under 200 looked like dresses you would go out clubbing in.. not for my wedding.  It is expensive for a dress they don’t get to pick (my bridesmaids actually had a huge say in the dress), but they do get to pick if they want to be a bridesmaids and the dress is just sort of part of it.  That is just another reason to keep bridal parties small, and shop around for the best deal.  The dress we got was 190 at one store, and 230 at the second, but the second store ended up forwarding us a sale because we had a bad customer service experience at the first store so we got them for 180.  And lets be real- unless you find an amazing clearance on a dress, you going to be spending more than a 100 dollars for a dress to attend a wedding as a guest too, and often time those aren’t worn again either.  

Post # 32
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2014

we got ours off etsy (convertible dresses) for $60 each 

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I am seriously considering rent the runway for my ladies.  I want a long dress, and I haven’t found anything for under 150.  Short dresses are more likely to be under $100.  The dress on rent the runway is $75 and so far the girls are all on board with the idea.  

Post # 34
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

As a Maid/Matron of Honor, hell no it is not worth it. My bridezilla is making us spend $120 on a long sequined skirt that we will never wear again, and then we have to play close to $100 for the top to be made… When we could go on rent the runway and get a nicer dress for $45 and then return it so it’s not just collecting dust in our closet. 

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

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chica95110:  If they really are only going to wear it once, then I think it’s probably a bit much. But my girls spent $140 on a convertible dress that they both plan on wearing again (one Bridesmaid or Best Man actually already has one in some other colors from different weddings and says she wears them all the time). I think if it’s truly a one-use dress, I would only feel comfortable spending up to $100

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

My mom said even back in the 1980s she paid about $100 for the bridesmaid dresses she had to buy.  

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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chica95110:  I have tried SO HARD to find quality dresses under $200 for my girls, but I have had zero luck with that.  I’ve found some lovely Dessy dresses between $200 and $300 dollars that they all like.  Originally, I was hoping to go with a regular evening gown, but one of my BMs is plus-sized and wouldn’t have been able to wear it.  At the end of the day, it’s really impossible to find a long gown that has any semblance of quality for less than $200.  Give the bride a break…I’m sure she’s trying.

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am probably in the minority, but I would much rather pay more for a dress I like. i was a bridesmaid for my girlfriend’s wedding in 2010 where we all wore Amsale and our dresses were $400 with alterations. It was the bride’s vision, but we got to choose our style in the same fabric. I haven’t worn the dress again, but it’s still in my closet for a formal occasion. I would wear it again, and I can’t say the same for most bridesmaid dresses. 

I am not having maids, but my Maid/Matron of Honor is wearing a gorgeous gown, her choosing, with some loose suggestions (long or short, but dressy/formal and a neutral or metallic) which she found on her own at the Saks outlet. I don’t know the clearance price, but it was originally $750. I asked her to spend an amount she was comfortable with. She feels and looks bangin. For some people, it’s worth it. 

Post # 39
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Blushing bee

Dresses that I buy to wear as a wedding guest are in the $175-$225 range anyway, so spending $200-300 as a bridesmaid seems normal to me.  It’s hard to find a decent cocktail dress at or less than $150.

Post # 40
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - hotel

I was really lucky to find exactly the sort of thing I wanted for my bridesmaids off the rack for £24.00 It was cheap enough I’ve been able to go all out with accesories that \i really liked. It’s deffinatly worth trawling through clothing shops and department stores just incase! This is the dress. It is a little different than the norm admittedly. But there’s alays bargains to be had if you look hard enough.

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

This is why I did mis-matched.  Some of my girls could afford a normal Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, but I know some of them can’t (or it would be very hard for them).  I would rather have them there with me is semi-matching dresses than not be there at all.  I gave them a color and lenght, and they could get whatever from there.  Some of them went off the rack with affordable options, some still went with something from a bridal store.  But they all got something they were comfortable with.

Post # 42
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Bee Keeper

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chica95110:  I’m from the UK and over here asking your bridesmaids to pay is basically unheard of; our bridesmaids dresses are costing over 300 each (we have 4 BMs) and we’re paying. 

The only way I’d have been OK with asking them to pay is if I asked them just to wear, say, a black dress (ie something they all already own). Similarly at one point we were considering giving each of them 160 towards a dress of their choice, but then my mum decided she wanted them to co-ordinate, so, we’re now paying the full cost. I’m getting them gifts costing around 70-80 each, and also paying 80 towards their hotel room. I’m not paying for hair and make-up though, they’re doing their own, and they’re also wearing their own shoes. 

So yeah to me asking someone to shell out money to be part of your wedding is kind of odd, but I come from somewhere that this just doesn’t happen, and it was an alien concept to me until I joined the Bee. 

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

 

I’ve been to 2 weddings where the bridesmaids wore non-bridal shop dresses.  In one, they all wore black dresses, in the second, navy blue.  They looked great.  I was surprised that the navy dresses weren’t from the same fabric/designer.  I told my ladies that they could pick any dress they so long as it was from X designer in Y color/fabric.  I would have just said pick whatever off the rack dress you like, but the color was red I didn’t want them to clash with each other.

Post # 44
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

In my honest opinion, its not worth it. I would hate for someone to ask me to spend $300 for a dress in a style/color I don’t enjoy that I’m only going to wear once. Especially with all the extra costs included in being a Bridesmaid or Best Man.

I’m looing at other sources for dresses for my bridal party. David’s Bridal has a section on their website with Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses under $100. If none of those work, there is always etsy, modcloth, or department stores. If I found a dress that I absolutely had to have my BMs wear and it was significantly more than $100/120, I’d pay the difference.

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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chica95110:  I struggled with that too. The way I worked around it was I picked a color and brand but they got to pick which dress they wanted within that color and brand. I also picked a color that they could wear again and looked good on them (navy blue). Of course, the bigger the bridal party the harder that is to do, I only have 4 BMs so it made it a little easier. Also, fortunately they ended up with dress options ranging between $120 and $220, so they had some say over how much they paid based on which dress they picked. 

And to ease up on the $, I am asking them to wear a neutral colored shoe and whatever jewelery they want, and I am paying for their hair and make-up. I’m not too worried about accessories matching because after all is said and done, I don’t think that’s something I am going to worry about for the pictures. (that’s just how I am) I might have a few pictures of them around the house and I doubt that I will be like, “ugh their shoes are different” I think I will be thinking “wow I am so glad they were there on that day! They made it so special!”

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