Post # 1
My wedding will be an informal morning wedding and I would like my guests to be comfortable. That said, I would not like my guests to be in jeans and t-shirts. Im not sure how to state this on the invitatiton (doing them myself). I’ve thought about using “business casual” but I’m not sure if this is acceptable etiquette-wise. Would love your help.
Post # 3
I think you are looking for “resort wear.” Casual sun dresses for the ladies and nice slacks with a casual button down for the guys.
Post # 4
i don’t think you need to say anything. i’ve never seen anyone wear jeans to a wedding. obviously, you know your invitees better than i do, so maybe you could spread it by word of mouth or put it on the website if you think you have to say something. i wouldn’t call it business casual though, maybe casual cocktail?
Post # 5
As far as etiquette goes, putting the words “business casual” on your invitation were as acceptable as “formal” would be. That’s because etiquette (as held by the highest sticklers) forbids you to suggest that your guests don’t have the good judgement to figure out how to dress themselves. They’re supposed to figure that out from the style of the invitation (and to know that bluejeans and t-shirts are unacceptable unless the invitation features a harley-davidson or similar t-shirt appropriate theme).
Nothing, however, says you have to follow the most proper etiquette rules if you know they wouldn’t work for your social circle. If you move in circles where people *do* put “formal” on their formal invitations, because they know their friends do *not* already know bluejeans are inappropriate, then feel equally free to put “business casual” on your informal invitations if that is what most clearly communicates to your friends what it is you expect of them.
Post # 6
i’ve never seen anyone wear jeans to a wedding.
One of my co workers married at Curzon Hall (beautiful castle/venue) and 2 guys in their mid 20’s were wearing jeans, tees and one wore flip flops and a baseball cap the entire time – you know the stupid hat where they wear it turned to the side like a teenager *grit teeth*
how about “smart casual” instead of business casual? is that a term thats used in the US??
Post # 7
Do you have a website? You could always add a “What to wear” section!
Post # 8
@kitzy: i went to a wedding last year and one of the guests (a co-worker) wore jeans. i couldn’t believe it. everyone was dressed in suits and he had on jeans. so it IS possible. just sayin’! 🙂
Post # 9
Friends of mine put “informal but dressy” on their wedding website. I think that gets the point across nicely while still giving guests a comfortable range of options.
Post # 10
I’ve seen people wear jeans and even t-shirts before. Because of this, we put cocktail attire on our invitations to make sure everyone dresses nicely. We put it on our website too but not everyone has a computer/can work a computer very well. I do like the suggested idea of informal but dressy for what you’re going for though.
Post # 11
I agree that you should just write it on your website. I have definitely been to weddings where people wore jeans. That being said, if you have friends or family who are really set on jeans, they may just wear jeans no matter what kind of guidelines you give them. 🙁
Post # 12
I’d term the dress code as “Garden Party” – it sounds so festive
Post # 13
What about “Sunday Best”. Tells people to dress up, but lets them know there won’t be cocktail dresses involved.
Post # 14
I’d write ‘Smart Casual’ or ‘Informal but dressy’. That should eliminate the denim. Or perhaps write ‘no denim’ in brackets if you think people might wear it.
I would think cocktail dress by the word ‘Sunday Best’
Post # 15
Thank you bees! I love the idea of smart casual.
Post # 16
in my mind, you could also put “cocktail attire” which would be a dress for women and slacks and a button up shirt for men. I like “Sunday bests” but to me that sounds more like an afternoon brunch rather than an evening affair.
and yes, people are completly stupid sometimes. jeans at a wedding – ha! morons.