Post # 1
It is not an actual buffet restaurant. We are looking at a fine dining restaurant that does catering for larger private parties. They have a private party room but they set it up as a buffet. We will have 48 people for the Dinner, so they recommended this buffet style dinner for the least expensive option with us being on a budget.
I have never been to a rehearsal dinner that is buffet style. Is this okay etiquette wise? It seems tacky to me (although our wedding will be buffet style)
How would you all feel about this?
Post # 2
Why would it seem tacky if your wedding dinner is a buffet? I don’t think anything is wrong with that. A rehearsal dinner is not technically required at all, and anything can count as a rehearsal dinner- whether it be a fancy steakhouse or pizza and soda at someone’s house. I don’t think you have to worry about etiquette with this in particular.
Post # 3
I think it is fine. We are just having pizza for mine. It is just rehersal it doesn’t need to be fancy.
Post # 4
Lol we are also having pizza for our rehearsal! Rehearsals arent supposed to be fancy, lavish events. I wouldn’t sweat it.
Post # 5
Awesome thanks! I guess the 5 or 6 that I have been to have all been pretty up scale so I wasn’t sure.
Haha I love the pizza idea! Where are you eating it at? Do you just stay at the rehearsal venue? We don’t exatcly have space for 50 people in any of our homes.
Post # 6
I don’t get your reasoning at all. If a buffet is not tacky (and I hate that very jusgemental word) for your wedding, why would it be tacky for th rehearsal dinner?
Post # 7
I went to a rehearsal dinner that was buffet and it was totally fine. I’m not sure why you dont think its okay when your wedding is going to be a buffet…that doesnt make any sense to me. A rehearsal is a much less formal event.
Post # 8
Yea that sounds fine! No need for the rehersal dinner to compete with the wedding!
Post # 9
No, it is absolutely fine. Sometimes I prefer buffet because it seems like people get their food faster than plated dinners.
Post # 10
I don’t exactly get it either. Other than all the dinners I have been to have been at up scale restaurants where everyone is served. Usually a smaller menu for the private party to choose an entree from. I have never heard of a catered rehearsal dinner. Just asking for opinions.
Post # 11
Of course it’s okay! I really don’t understand your reasoning considering your wedding is a buffet??
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
As long as there is food, everyone will be happy! I think ours will be family-style but only because that’s how the caterer said she prefers to serve smaller groups like that (30).
Post # 13
Almost every single rehearsal I have been to had a buffet (including mine). Out of curiosity, why does it seem tacky?
Post # 14
“tacky” was a poor word choice. I simply have only attended (or even heard of) very formal sit-down plated rehearsal dinners, while most wedding I have attended are all buffet style.
I personally didn’t see anything wrong with it, I just haven’t heard of that for a rehearsal dinner
Fiance was also not sure, as he had never heard of a buffet style rehearsal dinner either.
Post # 15
Oh yes! We had our rehearsal dinner at a a Gastropub (also was a billiards hall), and had a tacos and pizza buffet. It was perfect!
I had an ex that I guess had his rehearsal dinner at the local Pizza Ranch (pizza buffet restaurant), and although that seems weird and kind of redneck – it worked for them.