Post # 107
Darling Husband is almost always a gentleman – not just with me, though. He holds doors for everyone! He will pull out my chair, offer me his coat, and give me flowers.
He actually complains about my car because there is no keyhole on the passenger side and he doesn’t have a remote fob for it (I have the only one), so he can’t really open my car door for me when we are getting in the car without going through a ridiculous process first.
I agree with a lot of the comments above. I think it’s important the women and men have equal rights and are equal under law. But not everyone is equal in other ways, and that’s okay.
If Darling Husband is stronger, then why shouldn’t he pick up the heavier box? It’s like saying that I’m better at managing finances, but I should “let” him handle the banking because otherwise I’m not treating him as an equal.
Post # 108
@This Time Round: Exactly! Too many people don’t seem to realize what you just said.
Post # 109
@LadyBear: FI is similar. He’s courteous to everyone as well. And I definitely agree with the last part you said too!
Post # 110
I see it pretty frequently here. I work in a 21-story building, and it’s just a given that the ladies will exit the elevator first. Men will also tend to wait to hold the door open.
As far as Fiance, the other night he opened the door for me and then went around to his side of the car. These girls in a SUV parked next to us could not get over this. It was like they’d never seen a man who wasn’t a douche, and they kept telling me how amazing it was and how lucky I was. I feel sorry for them!
Post # 111
My Fiance doesn’t think chivalry is dead and therefore he practices it himself. To me, he does it the perfect amount. He doesn’t open the car for me EVERY time we ride in it, but he does on dates, he brings me flowers often, pays for dinner most of the time, and just in general treats me with respect and takes good care of me. I think chivalry is more of a choice than it is anything else.
Post # 112
@princesslettuce14: I know haha. I told my husband about the chivalrous rules and he indendently came to the same conclusion. “Wouldn’t you want me to go put our name down?” He said. Yes, yes, I absolutely would, and I would do the same for him.