Post # 1
I found a venue with a private beach area for a ceremony and a nice ballroom for the reception. There are a few cons about the venue.
1) They do not have a coctail hour location or would even offer a cocktail hour unless it was in the ball room. So i have opted for no Cocktail hour.
2) They only want to to one meal option for all guest and offer a vegan dish but only for those that are vegan
3) They party must stop at 10PM
As a guest would you/ Could you still enjoy this wedding?
Post # 2
Will you be taking photos after the ceremony, or are you going straight to the reception? Cocktail hour is mostly meant for pre-dinner socializing and so your guests don’t just sit around waiting for you for an hour. We are having a morning wedding, so our “cocktail hour” is actually “coffee hour”, but it’s in the same room as the reception 🙂
Post # 3
angelinagonzalez: in this instance we would do a first look for bridal party pics and then do one large group pic of all the guest after the ceremony on the beach and then do a few pics with immediate family while the guest are being seated. Im hoping that the group pic takes about 10 min and the family pics take 15. Then we can go right to dinner. Im just worried that guest will not like missing out on cocktail hour.
Post # 4
As long as your not leaving everyone standing around for an hour while you take photos, I don’t think anyone will mind skipping cocktail hour. It is nice for mingling, but people can do that after dinner.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2016 - Rock Island Lake Club
As a guest, I always enjoy weddings. Cocktail hour is my favorite part… but if you can’t swing it so be it. People are there to celebrate your union, if they get mad about things you may or may not have… then thats on them.
Post # 6
Lokie85: Oh yeah, if they will be sitting, I’m sure it’s fine!
Post # 7
I will give you the perspective from the other side of the table. I’m Italian, we feed feed feed people until they bust right? Ok, so.. I scheduled an hour long cocktail reception, with 4 plated hot and cold appitizers, then we went right into a 5 course dinner service. That lasted around 2.5 hours. We started the event at 5pm and had the hall room until Midnight. I was NOT thinking at ALL..but SEVEN hours for one event was ridiculous for my small 65 person party. My poor guests could barely hang on [some were older/elderly] and even though I provided a “midnight snack” half way through, it was too long of a night in hindsight. I would have 86’d the cocktail hour in a heartbeat if I realized it.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel
Lokie85: We opted for no cocktail hour by choice. However we did a “first look” before the ceremony. After the ceremony was done, we all went to the dinner reception and dancing. It worked out just fine. But if you want to do pictures after the ceremony I think you definitely need cocktail hour.
Post # 9
marriedalready69: My family isnt italian but we do weddings with tons of food too and I can not remember a single wedding where I wasnt totally stuffed form the cocktail hour and then forcing down dinner and after dinner snacks and dessert bar and wedding cake and drinks and then leaving late into the night exhausted, too full to eat the next day. My dad has been looking forward to carving stations at the cocktail hour and that is all he talks about when it comes to my wedding adn the first question he will ask any venue LOL. It is hard for me to imagine not having a cocktail hour or ending the night at 10pm. My BFF suggested an after party where we change and go out to a bar/night club.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2016 - Glen Island Harbour Club
I enjoy cocktail hour, mostly because I really love appetizers. Will the guests go directly from the ceremony into the reception space? I think as long as your guests aren’t just standing around they’ll be ok with it. If the night ends at 10pm, what time does it begin?
Post # 11
I wouldn’t do it.
It ends early
no cocktail hour
and only one dish choice
OR are they really super cheap so that it’ll all be worth it?