(Closed) Is confronting a situation really the best thing?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
2821 posts
Sugar bee

I say my piece and then let it go. 

After I’ve said my piece, they’ve heard what I think, I’ve heard what they think, we might have differing opinions but that’s life.  If there’s some way to compromise then I might try but for your situation I’d just do what you did and say this is why I chose it and then drop it. 

But I never say ‘you hurt my feelings’, even one time when his mom told me I was stubborn during wedding planning I just said, ‘you think?, I prefer to think of myself as confident and decisive’ instead of going ‘blah blah blah that’s so rude of you to say, how could you insult me, blah blah blah’.  At least for our relationship that’s what’s seemed to work best.

Post # 4
Member
13101 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Being passive agressive will never get either of you anywhere and will ultimately do nothing but hurt your relationship with one another.  Let her know how you feel and explain that her comments hurt your feelings.

Post # 5
Member
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My SO and I aren’t married yet, but his mother can be totally crazy.  I decided about 6 months ago, that being honest starting now is, and will be, the best policy for the health of our relaitionship moving forward. 

She can ask for you to do things that are completely unreasonable and she doesn’t have any daughters so her sons have always just been ‘yes’ men telling her what she wants to hear.  Well, she better get used to the open and honest truth because I will NOT be jerked around, or made to feel bad, or let her leave the house looking rediculous, or allow her to convince me to go out of my way for stupid stuff. 

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