(Closed) Is crazy to want to HOST my own bachlorette party?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Etiquette typically says a bride shouldn’t host her own party because it seems too grabby for gifts.  However, in this case, you’re not asking for gifts. ๐Ÿ™‚ You’re just organizing all the girls to have a good time.


I say go for it.  if you don’t think they will do it, take the initiative and plan your own dream bash! ๐Ÿ™‚ You’ll probably like it better that way anyway. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I guess I’d be asking why do you think your MOH/BMs wont organise it?  If they aren’t really interested, it might seem a little pushy for you to be organising one for yourself.  I personally would wait for them or not have one at all. 

Post # 5
1301 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I understand what you mean about being unsure if your BM’s or Maid/Matron of Honor would host you a bachelorette party as my Maid/Matron of Honor is not really the party or hosting type.

What I did for mine was host it in conjunction with my Maid/Matron of Honor and my best friend from work.  The venue was my MOH’s house (she decorated and provided nibbles etc), my besty from work organised the entertainment (belly dancing!) and I bought the booze and sent out informal invites.

Having said that I didn’t really call it a Bacherlorette party, I sent out the invites asking people to “join me in celebrating my last days as a single girl!”

We had a really great night and it was cool just to have an excuse for everybody to get together and have some fun.

In short, go for it but maybe not call it a Bachelorette party?


Post # 7
237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think I will be doing the same thing. And I dont think its crazy. My bridesmaids are my sisters. And they haven’t been much helpful with the wedding planning. So I doubt they will plan much for my bachorlette party. They never have any money so I assume I will have to pay for most of it. So I guess I will step up and plan the night exactly how I want. But I may be surprised with my sisters. They may already have started planning.

Post # 8
2871 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am also planning one myself.  My Fiance and I are eloping and we do not have a wedding party.  I dont want gifts, I just want my girls to get together and have fun.

I usually plan all of our girls night outtings anyway. So planning this is no different, except I will be wearing a tiara and a sash.


Post # 9
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think Kemma’s plan is a good one!  Maybe a little nudge from you is all they need to get in the swing of it all.

Post # 10
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

bryenswife: I may end up being just like you and planning my own Bacherlorette party as well. 

Some people just don’t have the initiative to plan something like that.  And besides, if you throw it, then atleast you know you’ll be happy with the venue, atmosphere, food etc.

One thing I always tell myself is “if you want something done the right way, on time and to your own perfection…. then your best bet is to do it yourself.”

Good luck!

Post # 11
489 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think its fine- you’re not asking for gifts, you’re just inviting people out.  I don’t think you can expect people to pay for you though- as is typical with bachelorettes.  They might (probably will) offer anyway, but it would be rather rude to ask people to come out with you and then tell them to pay for you.  Not that you would, but that’s the only thing I can think of that could get weird in that kind of situation.

Post # 12
115 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Because Im such a perfectionist my girls actually let me plan MOST of my bachelorette weekend but they paid for it. They did have some extras thrown in there but I say if you know how you want the evening to go … do it yourself! You only live once

Post # 13
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Although I trusted my BMs to throw me a bachelorette party, I only trust myself to do things the way I want them. So I told me Maid/Matron of Honor exactly what I wanted so that she could plan accordingly. As long as you do it in a gracious way, I think its okay to kind of plan it yourself ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
10 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

i say go for it! I really want to go to a casino for mine and they all know it and i am the one who gets the free room because i go so much. I will probably be booking the rooms myself so I am very involved and feel like i’m planning mine in a way.

Post # 15
145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

go for it! if u want something done right u have 2 do it urself! haha jk ๐Ÿ˜‰ but seriously i totally feel u on this 1!

Post # 16
7295 posts
Busy Beekeeper

i don’t see anything wrong with it. and i agree with the PPs idea about talking to your MOH/BMs to host it together.  that way if you have the better party planning/organizational skills, you can put them to use, get what you want, and help with the costs so its not all on them.

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