Post # 1
I am really wanting a bachlorette party! I just don’t have faith in my friends to throw one for me. I have always dreamt of having the pre bridal parties with all my friends but i just don’t think they would go this far for me. So I will do it for myself.
If you were to host your own pre bridal parties, what would you do? I was thinking of having it at a local bar and maybe going out to dinner. I don’t want the strippers and all, but I still want the penis straws and the sash and tiara.
Post # 3
Etiquette typically says a bride shouldn’t host her own party because it seems too grabby for gifts. However, in this case, you’re not asking for gifts. 🙂 You’re just organizing all the girls to have a good time.
I say go for it. if you don’t think they will do it, take the initiative and plan your own dream bash! 🙂 You’ll probably like it better that way anyway. 🙂
Post # 4
I guess I’d be asking why do you think your MOH/BMs wont organise it? If they aren’t really interested, it might seem a little pushy for you to be organising one for yourself. I personally would wait for them or not have one at all.
Post # 5
I understand what you mean about being unsure if your BM’s or Maid/Matron of Honor would host you a bachelorette party as my Maid/Matron of Honor is not really the party or hosting type.
What I did for mine was host it in conjunction with my Maid/Matron of Honor and my best friend from work. The venue was my MOH’s house (she decorated and provided nibbles etc), my besty from work organised the entertainment (belly dancing!) and I bought the booze and sent out informal invites.
Having said that I didn’t really call it a Bacherlorette party, I sent out the invites asking people to “join me in celebrating my last days as a single girl!”
We had a really great night and it was cool just to have an excuse for everybody to get together and have some fun.
In short, go for it but maybe not call it a Bachelorette party?
Post # 7
I think I will be doing the same thing. And I dont think its crazy. My bridesmaids are my sisters. And they haven’t been much helpful with the wedding planning. So I doubt they will plan much for my bachorlette party. They never have any money so I assume I will have to pay for most of it. So I guess I will step up and plan the night exactly how I want. But I may be surprised with my sisters. They may already have started planning.
Post # 8
I am also planning one myself. My Fiance and I are eloping and we do not have a wedding party. I dont want gifts, I just want my girls to get together and have fun.
I usually plan all of our girls night outtings anyway. So planning this is no different, except I will be wearing a tiara and a sash.
Post # 9
I think Kemma’s plan is a good one! Maybe a little nudge from you is all they need to get in the swing of it all.
Post # 10
bryenswife: I may end up being just like you and planning my own Bacherlorette party as well.
Some people just don’t have the initiative to plan something like that. And besides, if you throw it, then atleast you know you’ll be happy with the venue, atmosphere, food etc.
One thing I always tell myself is “if you want something done the right way, on time and to your own perfection…. then your best bet is to do it yourself.”
Post # 11
I think its fine- you’re not asking for gifts, you’re just inviting people out. I don’t think you can expect people to pay for you though- as is typical with bachelorettes. They might (probably will) offer anyway, but it would be rather rude to ask people to come out with you and then tell them to pay for you. Not that you would, but that’s the only thing I can think of that could get weird in that kind of situation.
Post # 12
Because Im such a perfectionist my girls actually let me plan MOST of my bachelorette weekend but they paid for it. They did have some extras thrown in there but I say if you know how you want the evening to go … do it yourself! You only live once
Post # 13
Although I trusted my BMs to throw me a bachelorette party, I only trust myself to do things the way I want them. So I told me Maid/Matron of Honor exactly what I wanted so that she could plan accordingly. As long as you do it in a gracious way, I think its okay to kind of plan it yourself 🙂
Post # 14
i say go for it! I really want to go to a casino for mine and they all know it and i am the one who gets the free room because i go so much. I will probably be booking the rooms myself so I am very involved and feel like i’m planning mine in a way.
Post # 15
go for it! if u want something done right u have 2 do it urself! haha jk 😉 but seriously i totally feel u on this 1!
Post # 16
i don’t see anything wrong with it. and i agree with the PPs idea about talking to your MOH/BMs to host it together. that way if you have the better party planning/organizational skills, you can put them to use, get what you want, and help with the costs so its not all on them.