(Closed) Is Dinner a Birthday Gift?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Is going out to dinner an appropriate birthday gift?
    Yes : (142 votes)
    51 %
    No : (60 votes)
    22 %
    Depends... (elaborate below) : (75 votes)
    27 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    But not just Applebee’s it would have to be a nice/unique dining experience out, or a nice home cooked meal done completely by the person presenting dinner as the gift, with the table done up all fancy and candles. That is just my humble opinion and my fiance and I have done both for each other.

    Post # 4
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    We’ve done dinner as a gift, but we discussed it before hand. If we said we were going to do gifts, then I wouldn’t consider dinner a gift, but if we said that we were going to do dinner for each other this year, then I would consider it a gift.

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    To me, it is for/from a friend, but not for/from my husband.  To me, feeding ourselves is our joint responsibility, and the method that it’s delivered is just a choice, not a gift.  I definitely wouldn’t consider him cooking me dinner to be a gift.  I dunno, we eat out fairly often though, so maybe that has something to do with it seeming like a bit of a cop out.

    However, if a friend or coworker takes me out for a meal, I definitely consider it a gift.

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church

    I agree with what @SapphireSun: said. However, if it’s a really fancy dinner from my husband unlike the kind we normally go out on, then I would consider it a birthday gift.

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    At a very nice restaurant, yes.

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @ERL501:  If it was a really nice dining experience and it was made clear that this was the thing you were doing for your birthday, yes.

    If it was like red lobster and then home, or just cooking dinner when you already live together, no that’s pretty lame for an SO present. 

    (For a friend who’s over 21, a dinner anywhere is more than enough.)

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I’m not a big birthday gift person, so I think that a nice dinner (preferably with a card and/or flowers) is a sufficient birthday gift. The important part IMO is that he puts effort into making it special for me. For example, cooking a normal dinner at home or going out to a place we always go wouldn’t make me happy because that doesn’t show any extra thoughtfulness

    Post # 10
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    7561 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @mishagirls79:  Agreed. A fancy dinner or thoughtful homecooked meal can totally be a gift. Add on some flowers or a special bottle of wine like some PPs suggested and you’re set! 

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Totally! 

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    To be completely honest, we don’t get to go out a lot as it can be quite expensive, so I’d probably actually prefer this.

    Fiance and I had agreed that we wouldn’t do Christmas gifts this year and that we’d just have a nice, less expensive date together instead, but his parents got it into their heads that he needed to buy me a gift. :/

    So then of course last minute I was scrambling to get him something in return.

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee

    Absolutely. A nice meal, no matter how it’s prepared, can be a gift. 

     

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    If you usually go out for dinner as a part of birthday celebrations for all family members bdays (something my partners family does) then its not a gift. If its something out of the ordinary then yes it can be a gift.

    Post # 15
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Depends. If it’s my SO’s birthday, and cook him the same old stuff I always make, that’s not much of a birthday gift. If I treat him to his favorite restaurant or go above and beyond when cooking one of his favorites, then I’d see it as a gift.

    Post # 16
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I almost always would prefer a nice dinner out with SO to a tangible gift. It’s something we don’t get to do often, and it makes for a better memory! I muh prefer “experience gifts” like going out somewhere or doing something fun than getting a physical gift. Last v-day our V-gift to e/o was going to Medieval times! If he surprised me by taking me to a place I’ve been wanting to try but ant because it’s too pricey for everyday life I would be thrilled!!

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