Post # 32
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
it depends on the quality of the meal and the specialness. Sonny’s BBQ… probably not… dinner at a really upscale, local place where we’re sharing a bottle of wine and indulging in extras like an appetizer or dessert… or both)… yes. Or, making a really awesome meal… that would, to me, count even more.
But, this should be a mutual decision. Both partners need to be on the same page as to whether a dinner counts as a gift.
Post # 33
I’m all about the nice dinner out as a present, I vote yes. But I also am not really into birthdays, so that seems very special to me. Actually, we did that this year for my birthday AND his. Though I think we each got each other something tiny as well like a book…
Post # 34
It can be, if like PPs said, it’s a special place (or the birthday person’s) choice. For me, it also counts only if Darling Husband pays for it out of his own spending account, not out of our joint account!
Like PPs, I prefer experiences – but a little more than dinner. My last couple birthdays have included a winery vist and an amusment park.
Post # 35
I usually take close friends out for dinner and also bring a gift on top of that. I don’t know if that’s the norm or not, but I was always taught that dinner didn’t “count” as the gift.
Post # 36
Of course it can be considered a gift.
Post # 37
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
Absolutely not. Eating is a necessity. It’s not a gift. Even if you go to a really nice restaurant, it’s still not a gift. He needs to add flowers and a card at the very least.
Post # 38
It depends on money. If that’s all you can afford then yes. If my husband and I didn’t really have enough money to get each other gifts but could go to dinner, that would be fine by me.
Post # 39
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
@hollyberry4: I prefer “experience gifts” too, but going out to dinner is too ordinary for me. My fiance and I go out to dinner probably way too much (about 3-5x a week), and it’s usually to nice places. Our average bill is $50-$100 every time we go out. So that’s just not an “experience” any more because we do it all the time.
Post # 40
@ERL501: It depends. For example, my friend and I do dinner together around Xmas instead of exchanging gifts… we agreed on it.
Usually my SO will take me out to dinner and get me a gift, so if it was just dinner I would be disappointed unless it was a crazy expensive place that I was dying to try and would cost several hundred dollars.
I think like everything else, it’s all about expectations… and smart to discuss them beforehand so no one has hurt feelings.
Post # 41
depends on the couple and the place…… super fancy $200+ dinner out in the city is absolutely birthday worthy but getting a pizza at the local place not so much.
we eat out pretty often so for me it would have to be really nice to consider it a present but for others who have limited finances or dont get to go out often then it would be totally fine
Post # 42
Me and Darling Husband are on a budget so often we have decided we would prefer a fancy night out over gifts. This past weekend we celebrated Darling Husband getting a huge bump up at work so I took him for a fancy steak dinner!
Post # 43
Definitely not. We always go out to dinner to celebrate special occasions but the dinner is not the gift, its the celebration. Now if the dinner was part of a weekend trip, sure. But not by itself.
Post # 44
absolutely it is! I remember one of my most memorable birthday gifts was when my Fiance took me to Daniel in NYC and we did the wine pairing with the 4 course meal. It is a Michelin star restaurant (3 stars) and we are big foodies so this was definitely a wonderful gift to me! One of the best meals we’ve ever had and we ended up sitting in a booth right next to Howard Stern and his wife!
Post # 45
A birthday dinner is obligatory and not a gift, whether it’s a home-cooked meal or a fancy restaurant. I’d expect to give or be given a gift in addition to dinner even if it’s like a $5 item. But it depends on the situation, if it’s financially not feasible, then you should just do dinner or a gift. Also if dinner is gonna be THE gift, both ppl have to be on the same page, otherwise, someone’s expectations aren’t gonna be met and there will be trouble!
Post # 46
@Meowkers: Yep, I agree 100%.