- 7 years ago
@ERL501: Yes if it’s a fancy fancy restaurant that you would not go to regularly. If he puts together a romantic dinner for you at home it would be nice for that to be accompanied by a small gift. If it’s a regular restaurant I would think a gift would be a nice touch as well.
@nyota526: I can totally see this if you’re a big foodie so that (very) high-end dinner is sort of an “experience gift” for you, and I agree that then the dinner IS the gift. We ate at Daniel last year, and did the multi-course thing, and it was definitely an experience in itself. I think that’s different than simply going to a nice dinner to celebrate your birthday, which IMO isn’t a gift.
Yes, absolutely. I take friends out for a meal all the time as a gift to celebrate their birthday. It’s one of my favorite things to give because it’s usually a nice night out + time spent together.
From Darling Husband, however, I would NOT consider being taken out to dinner enough of a gift…. he and I share meals all the time. On b’days, the b’day girl/boy gets to pick where they want to go… but it’s in addition to a gift.
One year my new boyfriend (now FI) made me organic fettucine alfredo from scratch, with bruschetta and homemade caesar dressing. He also made bread and bought wine to go with it. He carted all this to the middle of the park, set it up on a card table, put a table cloth down, had a single red rose as a centerpiece, and lit a candle.
That definitely counted.
But something like Chipotle? Maybe not so much.
For my birthday this year my OH treated me to dinner; usually, we’d go halves. I didn’t want a gift, but he didn’t want to get me nothing, so this was a compromise. We’re doing the same for his birthday.
It’s totally a gift, if it’s a super nice restaurant.
I always want to go to 4 and 5 star restaurants, but we aren’t the kind of people to drop $300 on a meal on a regular Saturday night, so I love birthdays, anniversaries, V-day for us to splurge on a really nice dinner somewhere we’ve been wanting to try.
My SO and I don’t count our nice dinner out for birthdays as a gift, but I suppose it technically is because we always pay for each other. Generally I wouldn’t “count” our usual birthday night out as a gift, just because we eat out a lot. If we were to go somewhere with a michelin star or somewhere on that level I would consider it a gift though.
If it’s a nice dinner, yes. If it’s somewhere you go all the time, not really.
Definitely! But I’m a fat girl foodie, so that’s the best present of ALLLL 🙂
I think that dinner is a birthday gift, but I voted “depends” because I don’t think it should be the ONLY birthday gift unless the restaurant is really special and the birthday-haver wouldn’t expect anything more. I personally see dinner (at a restaurant or made for me by my SO) as A present, but would be a bit offended if it was the ONLY one, as my SO usually gives me one or more presents other than dinner- books, jewelry, other things he knows I will like. But then, I was raised in a family where birthdays are a big deal, and so was he. I guess it depends somewhat on the characters and expectations of the people involved.
Hells yeah! It’s an awesome gift because it’s an EXPERIENCE rather than just a THING.
My husband and I got a wedding gift that was “dinner at our house.” At first, I was like, “huh?” But he let me choose the theme/type of food (French) and then created an 8-course fancy meal, each course with its own wine/beer/alcohol pairing. It was like a cooking class and dinner out all in one, only if I had been in a restaurant there is NO way I could’ve afforded to eat like that. We had lobster souffle, gourmet cheeses, filet mignon with bernaise sauce, palate-cleansing homemade vodka sorbet, I mean, the works! They put a LOT of effort and thought into it, and it was one of our favorite gifts.
You could also take someone out and “wine and dine” them. That’s a pretty awesome experience all in itself – awesome dinner on someone else’s dime, plus hanging out with them for at least an hour.
We’ve always counted it as a birthday gift to each other, but usually also get another gift as well. Birthdays are the one time of year that we are very generous gift givers to each other 🙂
it depends. honestly, dh is a huge foodie (he even has a food blog…) so we eat out a lot and cook a lot, so it’d have to be really, really extravagant to top the “norm” for us. normally we go out to eat anyway plus do presents, even if they’re small. and actually, I’d probably feel pretty put out if it was his present to me, since it’s his hobby more than mine and he’d be the one especially digging it (seriously, he’s obsessed with food!). but if I took him to a really, drop-dead extravagant place for his bday, he’d probably be excited about that
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