(Closed) Is dress regret normal??

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

I think some form of dress regret or another is usually normal.  I would definitely suggest waiting until you get it to decide how you really feel about it.  And stop looking at other dresses!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Wait until it arrives.  Dress regret is VERY normal!!! Most women go thorugh a period of doubt waiting for delivery when they keep looking at all these amazing dresses, but once you put it on again, you’ll likely be reminded of exactly why you fell in love with it the first time.  

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

definitely wait–this dress is so stunning!

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I don’t know if this will help you or make your dress regret worse.  However, I have had dress regret since I had my first try on after my gown arrived, and I’ve been married for three years.  I had never even seen SYTTD until AFTER my wedding, and, once I did, and once I saw some of the spectacularly beautiful gowns there and on weddingbee (which I didn’t become a member of until after my wedding), I really have struggled with dress regret.

HOWEVER, I can honestly say that, at the time, I think I probably selected one of the best styles for my figure and budget, and it met so many of my criteria (sweetheart neckline; lots of bling on the bodice; 100-percent silk fabric; lightweight; as figure-flattering as possible for my plus-sized, hour-glass shape; elegant, etc.) that, when I objectively  evaluate my choice, it likely was  a good choice for me, based on what was availble to me, in my area, at that time, and in my price range (gorgeous, blingy, corsetted, totally-out-of-my-price-range Pnina Tornai dream gown notwithstanding! haha)  And, so, I’ve tried to make peace with myself over that choice.

Also, since seeing SYTTD, I’ve seen many gorgeous gowns that I thought, “Wow, that’s one I would have seriously considered!” Yet, weeks later, on another episode, I always seemed to find another one that captures my interest. So, even if I had  chosen a DIFFERENT gown, it’s likely that I STILL would have some dress regret, do you know what I’m saying? There is always going to be something more  stunning, more  figure-flattering, with more  of a “wow” factor “out there” at some point before you walk down the aisle.

Sometimes brides will buy a gown that just is not flattering on them at ALL.  And they realize this, and they find another gown — at the last minute — that they love. I’ve seen several bees post about this, and in those select cases, I believe they made the right choice to switch to another gown.  Usually, they had to chose an after-market purchase of a pre-owned dress to be able to do this, but the “new” (to them!) gown was much prettier on them, and I think they made wise choices.

However, in your case, I see an absolutely beautiful Enoani gown that has so many beautiful features, and it looks fantastic on you.  Although there MAY be a gown that you would love better, is it worth it to lose a couple of thousand dollars on this gown and then spend another couple of thousand dollars on another dress just to have that “It’s Perfect!” feeling? I’m thinking that the answer is no.  Because it’s only a matter of time until you see something ELSE that you may wish you had chosen instead.

I hope that this all makes sense! 🙂

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Amsy28:  I can’t speak personally on this topic (haven’t bought a dress yet!), but I think that with a big purchase like this, it is normal to second guess yourself a bit.

I’d suggest you stop looking at other dresses. No matter what you buy, there will always be something out there that is better or just as good. Just trust that you’ll look good in the dress you bought. You bought it for a reason.

If you find yourself seriously considering other dresses then I’d try to put things into perspective. We’re talking about a dress that you will wear once… for a few hours. There’s no guarantees that if you go w. another dress you’ll like it any more. You’ll just feel silly for spending even more money. You will look great, and besides – a wedding is about marrying the guy you love. Not about having the perfect dress. This isn’t to say the dress you bought isn’t perfect, but if you keep comparing it against other dresses, you’ll only make yourself feel worse.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Amsy28:  I understand how you are feeling, I also always envisioned myself in a trendy fit n flare with ruffles or something just as nontraditional all over the skirt! Instead I fell in love with a strapless ballgown with pickups. I look at dresses now and think that I may have made the wrong decision, but every time I put it back on I fall in love all over again (luckily I was able to purchase the sample gown at a retirement sale and I get to try it on when ever I buy accessories lol).

All this being said, wait until you try it on again. I am pretty sure you will fall in love all over again and remember why you chose it in the first place!

Post # 12
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Helper bee

You look really great in the Enzoani Dabra! I checked out Wtoo Hera and I didn’t fancy the drop-waist that was in a weird position…doesn’t seem as flattering as your dress. 

Post # 13
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2013

That dress looks amazing on you!  I have the same one and I’m going through the exact same ordeal!!!  I think this is a perfect mix of traditional with a little modern twist to it though! 🙂  Here’s to hoping that we both have fantastic big days feeling confident in our decisions on this gorgeous dress!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge

Dress regret can only happen if you continue to look at other dresses.  I realized that too late.  My advice is STOP watching SYTTD, stopping looking at bridal gown websites, etc.  Your dress looks gorgeous, IMO you should not regret it at all.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with what many of the pp are saying. Also, coming from a two dress bride, I want to let you know that selling a dress is DEFINITELY not easy. I had a current Anne Barge dress that I didn’t end up selling until 3 weeks before my wedding. I had it on multiple sites PLUS ebay and was offering it at a bargain price. It took over 8 months for me to sell that dress. So, stop looking and be patient! Your dress looks great & like a pp said, you are only wearing it for a few hours on ONE day!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

You have to stop looking at other gowns, and that includes watching SYTD.  I know it’s hard.  I love that show too.  But it gave me serious dress regret for months.  I’m finally happy with my dress again, and all that stress was so unnecessary.

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