Post # 1
Our wedding is in more than 2 years, so in a year or so, I will probably invite some people to where I live to help me dress shop. But I’d like to start before then, and the only way I can do that is alone; I live in California, my mother and my FH’s family live 3 hours away, my brother’s Girlfriend lives 2 hours away, my best female friend lives in Missouri, my sister/MOH lives in North Carolina, and the rest of my female friends live 3+ hours away. Those of my family members who live nearby are too old to go on a shopping expedition or disapprove of my getting married so young.
Anyway, my question is, would it be weird for me to go shopping alone? I know it doesn’t truly matter, but I can’t help thinking I don’t want people to think I’m a loser, or make rude comments. Plus, I am young, and some people think I look even younger than I am, so I am afraid that the ladies who work at the bridal salon will not want to give me good service because I will just seem like a little girl who’s looking at wedding dresses out of curiosity or boredom. Am I just being paranoid? Have you ever dress shopped alone? What was it like?
Post # 3
I had to go dress shopping alone several times. I also purchased my dress alone. And this month, I have gone to two fittings on my own. No one has ever made me feel bad about it. Yes, they usually ask where everyone is, but not with attitude. I just simply explain that all my friends live out of state and all of my family is in FL.
My sister is flying up to help me out with last minute wedding preparations and so she will be able to attend my final fitting with me. I’ll be honest though…at first I was sort of sad that I had to do all this by myself (I did shop one time with two of my bridesmaids), but I felt like all the decisions made related to my dress were entirely my own. I watch these shows like SYTTD where the bride brings an entourage. Everyone is giving their opinion (all varying of course) and the bride ends up confused and trying to please someone and ends up either leaving with nothing or a dress she truly isn’t happy with.
I think you’ll be fine. If anyone is rude to you because you look young, that’s not the shop for you. Best of luck and have fun!!!
Post # 4
I went shopping by myself the entire time. Once I found the one I wanted I then had my parents come in to look at it. No one made any comments to me, most people I dealt with were very friendly and helpful. They probably like it because then they dont have to deal with too many opinions.
Post # 5
I went dress shopping alone and it was perfect. Previously, i had spent an afternoon with a friend boutique hopping and i found it really hard to focus. Plus, she didn’t stick with the dress guidelines!
My consultant was awesome. Very attentive and friendly. I felt like i could really take my time looking when i was alone. I say do it. Enjoy!
Oh, I should mention that i popped in to the dress shop, tried on 4 dresses and bought one. I paid in full and was out of there in like an hour and 1/2. I bet the consultant looooooooved me.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t worry too much about it! The sales woman at most places are really helpful and want to be there for you if you don’t have anyone with you. I went alone my frist time trying on dresses just to see what style I like. I think it’s good to go by yourself the first time because then you’re not getting persuaded by anyone else’s opinion. Once you know what styles you like its nice to have family and friends there to help you pick the one.
Post # 7
It’s not weird at all! In fact, I think the consultants prefer brides who shop alone. I mean, given the choice, would you rather help a bride with an entourage of ten people, or one who’s by herself? Plain and simple, the less people the bride brings, the easier the consultant’s job usually is. I shopped by myself on a few occasions, and when I brought people, I limited it to one good friend or Fiance. Every experience was amazing, and all my consultants were incredibly pleasant and seemed to really like me as a bride, but that may also be because I knew exactly what I wanted in a dress!
Post # 8
Wow, I didn’t know dress shopping alone was so common. I thought it was practically unthinkable 😛 Thanks everyone!
@T.R.Bride: I know exactly what I want in a dress too, and I’ve been looking online a lot…that should help
Post # 9
i might take Fiance with me to “kick it off” and get ideas of what he does/does not like in person, then i’ll probably do 90%–if not all–of the rest of the shopping by myself. if i ever have anyone with me, i MIGHT have my best friend if she comes to visit, or POSSIBLY my mom if she comes to visit…most likely if i have anyone, it’ll be FI’s mom. but maybe not even her. i don’t know how i’ll be viewed, but honestly, i don’t really care. they’ll keep their opinions to themselves if they want me to buy a dress from them. 🙂
Post # 10
I went dress shopping once with quite a few people and once with just my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor. My third trip out, I went alone. I actually did better alone! Everyone had an opinion and I was easily discouraged if they had anything negative to say about a dress. I heard comments like “I don’t like this about that dress, but if you like it…” It was difficult for me to let those types of comments roll off of me—they stuck! Anyway, I narrowed my dress selection down to 2 by myself, then called only my mom to the shop to help me pick between the 2. No one said a thing about me being alone, the sales consultant actually thought it was awesome.
Post # 11
I am actually in the same situation. My sisters and mother live about 2 hours away. As well as everyone else I can look at dresses with. I was about to make an appointment at David’s Bridal last week but I backed out because I thought it would be weird for me to go by myself. I’m glad to hear this is a common thing amongst brides and now that I think about it, it makes sense to go by yourself because you get to try on dresses with out someone else telling you what looks good.
Post # 12
I went shopping alone at first and I am so glad I did. It is a little awkward and there were times when I was asking the sales lady what she thought because I needed someone else’s opinion. What I did was I went to a bunch of stores and once I had it narrowed down to my top three choices I brought my mom and some of my BMs in to get their opinion. Ultimately I chose my dream dress which only one of my BMs liked. The sample didn’t fit and was a hideous color on me so I know that’s why they weren’t in love with it (because everyone who has seen it since my dress came in has cried/loved it). If I had just gone with them in the first place, I probably would have been easily swayed by their opinions. But since I had gone first by myself I had allowed my own opinion of the dress to really develop and was able to stand up for myself and say it was the dress.
Post # 13
I was in the same position, our families are sprinkled across the US. I did take a good guy friend with me twice to try on dresses. I felt so awkward trying on dresses with random people in the store looking at me while the consultant tried to make a sale by saying I looked beautiful in every dress. To top it off my friend and I had such differing views on dresses, that we couldn’t really agree on a dress. On a wim, I went out by myself one day and from the corner of my eye caught a dress I liked. I tried it on and walked out of the store with that sample dress an hour later. I’ve even gone to the fittings alone – mainly because everyone is horrified that I’m cutting off the train.
I wouldn’t have done it any other way. I chose that dress because I loved it and the alterations that are being done are because it’s how I want the dress to look.
Post # 14
I wish I had gone alone. I ended up with my well-meaning but very bossy sister with me. I am short and chubby, I’ve gained bunches of weight since starting dating Fiance. I was set on a more structured a-line shape, and somehow she talked me into a trumpet. Now I am completely losing-sleep-stressing out that I won’t be able to lose enough weight to get my waist whittled back to an hourglass, and I will look ridiculous in it. Going alone, I think I would have ended up with something I am much more comfortable with and less stressed about.
Post # 15
I found my dress on a solo shopping experience. I can tell you with certainty that no one will treat you differently – if anything, I was treated BETTER because I was alone. I got tons of attention from the consultants, and I was able to hear my own thoughts in my own head instead of everyone else’s opinion. I went back to try the dress on again with my Maid/Matron of Honor and mom, but they only echoed what I already knew – it was The Dress.
I highly recommend shopping alone to EVERYONE who is looking for a dress. Sometimes its more of a pain than anything with more people.
Post # 16
I wish I had gone alone! It will be a good experience for you, cause you can rule out what you don’t like, without the opinions of family and friends.
Try not to get too attached a dress this early on. I picked mine out over 2 years ago and things (dresses and fashion) change in that amount of time! I have a serious love/hate relationship with my dress.
So many new, fashion-forward dresses will come out between now and 2 years, you might end wanting something else by then!
Have fun trying on dresses-alone! It will be fun! Even try on the ones you don’t think you would ever like, you may be surprised and love the ones you thought you would hate! Funny how that works out most of the time.