(Closed) Is e-mailing a bride to tell them you can't be in their wedding ok?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Is e-mailing okay to drop out of a wedding party?

    Yes, it's fine

    No, it's rude

    Yes, as long as you follow up with a phone call

    Depends on the situation...

  • Post # 32
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

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    @lovelylight99:  Yeah I can totally relate to that. We’re eloping.. I could not handle all of this stuff. Sounds like you handled this situation well, though!

    Post # 34
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

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    @lovelylight99:  That’s too bad… oh well, I am sure you will still have a great time, and at least the end is in sight lol.

    Post # 36
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    547 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Honestly, I don’t see myself ever dropping out of friend’s wedding party after agreeing to be in it. That said, if I were to do that [which I wouldn’t], I’d probably choose the email route too. I may or may not have followed up with a phone call. I find that I am much better at expressing my thoughts/feelings thoroughly through writing and I don’t always get my point across when speaking. Especially in an uncomfortable situation, I’d much rather get everything out in the open first by writing it down. I also really hate talking on the phone. I’d much prefer to text/gchat/email anyday.

     

    ETA: I’d be much more pissed that she dropped out at all than her chosen medium for communicating her flakiness to you.

     

    Post # 37
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    600 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @lovelylight99:  youre right to be annoyed – I suspect there is more to it also…

    Post # 38
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think you should call her. Maybe she embarassed or really feels so bad that she just cant bring herself to calling you. You guys are friends. Let her know that you will not hold it against her, see if theres anything you could help with or if she is going through more than she is letting on. She may not want to tell you everything because she knows you have enough wedding stress without her personal drama to add on to it. It sounds like she was really dedicated, she bought the dress, booked her room and everything.  But I think you should call her, fugure out what is going on, then move on. And a phone call isnt always great. I had a bridesmaid drop out last night via phone call, she cussed me out first, but I would have rather had an email to say the least lol Best of luck to you both 🙂

    Post # 39
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    6014 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I would think if she wanted to keep he friendship she would have called you long before now to tell you what’s going on. 

     

    You may have dodged a lifelong pain in the ass. 

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