- 4 years ago
I’m really sorry for how long this is, but I’m goin crazy! So I feel like I should include a bit of a backstory. I’m having a very religious wedding, and was really struggling finding anything I liked. I need to have at least a cap sleeve, and would prefer to have a higher neck (both for religious reasons and because I like how it looks on me). I’ve tried on at least 30 dresses, and really didn’t feel anything for any of them. I really just wanted something simple, but beautiful. I was even looking at dresses from places like Lulus because I just really wanted something simple. So I start getting to the wire and know I really need to order something to make sure it arrives in time. I ended up finding a really pretty, simple chiffon strapless that I really liked, and tried it on with a few toppers. I didn’t love any of them but found one I liked, so I figured I would buy the dress and look for a topper elsewhere.
I went to the dress designer’s flagship store since I could try on the dress I ordered with their toppers, and I got really worried. I felt like my dress looked like a white bridesmaid dress. It’s also WHITE, which I’m worried makes it look cheap combined with the chiffon. I also spent too long looking at dress posts on wedding boards and decided this was my only time to have a real bridal moment. So I then decided to keep looking and rush something if need be. I found another dress (Watters Penelope) and got it for a great discount (which is the main reason I went with that one). It has a tulle skirt and lace top, so a little more bridal to me. However, I was really, really worried for a few reasons: 1. It has a bronze lining, and I’m nervous its going to make the dress look dingy, and just genuinely won’t be a flattering color on me. The sample was really rough so it was hard to tell what a new one will look like.. 2. Because I’m having a religious wedding, I would need a lot of alterations. I’m going to have add straps/cap sleeves and figure out a way to fill in the back a bit. Sometimes I love it, sometimes I hate it (when I look at pictures). Not only will the alterations be expensive, but I can’t really imagine what its going to look like.
One day I was online shopping and came across this full sequin crop top. Not normally something I would buy, but there was something about that I just loved, so I ordered it. When it came, I was really surprised at how great the quality was. I tried it on with a maxi skirt and I just loved it so much. The sequins catch the light really beautifully and I think it actually looks expensive (not something I usually equate with sequins). I love the high neck, the sleeves, the back. I started thinking that maybe this could be the topper for the first dress. It would be modest, and I would get the simple dress with something cool and a little different.
But now I’m worried its boring. I know I’ll just have to wait for both dresses to come in to decide, but I’m driving myself crazy thinking about it. It’s obviously not a huge bridal moment, but thats not what I wanted in the first place. I thought if I added a long veil, a blingy headband and a cool chunky bracelet or something it could turn into something really fun and different. But maybe its not fun, maybe its boring, and my judgement is impaired because I keep staring at so many dresses!
Let me know what you think. You won’t hurt my feelings.
Strapless dress I ordered, no topper (sorry I don’t have a photo of me in it, but I would say it basically looks the same on me):
Watters Penelope (again, would need straps, cap sleeves, the back filled in, etc.)
A really bad mockup I did of the new dress concept.
Just so you can kind of see how shimmery the sequins are.