Post # 197
@MissHarleyBlue: Being “rich” is all relative. I have plenty of friends from all walks of life with rings ranging from $500 to $95,000. One of my friends has more money than she knows what to do with but requested a beautiful .5 carat stone for her engagement ring.
What people choose to spend on their engagement rings, weddings, cars, houses, or vacations is all a PERSONAL choice.
Post # 198
What gives us the right to judge others?
I made a cup of coffee… In my Keurig. It cost me $.52 when I could’ve used my traditional drip coffee maker and spent mere pennies. Judge away.
Post # 199
I LOVE MY KEURIG 🙂 But I mean you could have drank hot water or refrained from liquids period and saved even more money… hehe JK
Post # 200
I have to agree with @blushpinkbride
:. Why do you assume that those that want to spend their money on material items of their choosing are either young or living on the edge financially? I would think someone with maturity would know better to make such an assumption.
I am not young, I am not old. I am not poor, nor do I consider myself rich. I have come from little means and so as DH. When we first started dating we had zero savings and did zero when it came to spending. Every single dime was saved for bills and a cushion. Nine years and a drastic difference in our income later I would say that we have earned the right to put money aside specifically for a ring without someone calling into question our spending habits. Especially considering we have several savings plans in motion for those “emergencies.” Lord knows we didn’t enter into such a purchase without taking the full preparations and considerations.
Also, living frugally with little spent on extras does not make you bullet proof either. There are certainly bills that can and may arise that are beyond your financial means and a smaller ring certainly won’t guarantee that you will make it through unscathed.
Happiness doesn’t pay my bills, my income pays my bills. And if that for some reason comes to end my padded savings will continue to pay my bills until an additional source of income is found.
When people stop judging others for their personal decisions they start to realize things in life that have “true value.” Judgment just like your disdain for materialism is just as guilty of making someone miss out on the priorities in life. You have your priorities and we have ours.
Post # 201
LMAO! You heathen!!!!! Don’t tell me you added cream or sugar!??!
Post # 202
I think the important takeaway from this thread is that ring styles, size, choices, etc are very poor predictors of a person’s finances and a large predictor of a person’s jewelry style/choices. THAT’S IT.
So stop looking at a ring to try to guage the income, financial responsibility, or love between the couple. Everyone who does that is probably an idiot.
I’m actually guilty of doing it a few times when i see “large but flawed” rings. My judge is that the person bought bigger than they could afford realistically because the size and show off factor was higher than just buying a prettier, more perfect ring. I don’t have any business making this judgment. Some people might just like the flaws and the size may look better on their fingers. Who knows.
Post # 203
exactly. I really doubt many people actually empty their bank accounts or go into debt for a ring. I’d assume people who can spend in the five figures for a ring have plenty more where that came from, including enough to afford said ring AND house, car, savings, etc etc etc before I would assume that they had to choose the ring OR any of those other things.
Post # 204
@MissHarleyBlue: I’m not! Neither is my Fiance, but he got me an amazing ring…it just took him awhile (like 7 months or so) to buy it, but he did, all on his own.
it does seem like many ladies here have gorgeous rings, from large center stones or amazing specs and settings, or some combination of all 3. But that doesn’t mean we’re all rich, though wouldn’t that be lovely?
Post # 205
post #200 Very well stated, ma’am!
@DW82: You should really read post number 200. For the record, I am in my mid-30s, I have a wonderful career, for which I obtained by nothing but it extremely hard work. I enjoy material things, and I will not apologize for anything that brings me happiness. My husband and I have a wonderful relationship, and with or without material things we would still have a wonderful relationship and be happy. But since you’re so concerned about my finances, I can tell you that if we were to BOTH lose our jobs today and stay unemployed for almost a year, we could continue to live exactly as we do now. Never assume you know anyone else’s financial situation. It is extremely rude to make assumptions and be judgmental when you have no clue as to other people’s lifestyles, income, and/or financial practices.
Post # 207
My ring is 0.82 and is just a solitare. I didn’t want anything too flashy. That said, it’s actually the Tiffany classic setting and was ungodly expensive. I worked a lot of overtime in the course of a year and put that money away to help pay for it. I insisted on helping pay since I was dictating which ring I wanted. My fiancee and I are blessed to have financial stability, but I would hesitate to call us rich. We just determine what our priorities are and, assuming it doesn’t put us into debt or diminish our rainy day fund, adjust our spending accordingly.
Post # 208
Hey all! We’re still getting quite a few flags here from users who are uncomfortable with the judgments being thrown around on this thread. There’s no way we’ll all ever agree on how to spend our money, and that’s okay! We all have different circumstances, different backgrounds, different priorities. What matters is that you’re doing what’s right for you and what makes you happy! And as it’s been said many times in this thread, it’s all relative. So I’m going to close this one now. Thanks! 🙂
Post # 209
Love your ring! What ring size are you?
Post # 209
I have either 1.25 or 1.5 center stone. Got it at my uncle’ spawn shop for $1000. Sold the wedding band on eBay for $100, so $900 invested in the ring. Went to http://www.pompeii3.com and bought a $350 halo setting, then paid a local jewelry repair shop $100 to reset the ring. So a total of $1450 invested. For the ering I had it on layaway, and sold some gold from jewelry not worn to pay the last $250. We could haven’t never afforded to go to a jewelry store and have gotten my ring.
Post # 210
Thank you! I am a size 6.