Post # 1
Hi Bees! I recently stumbled on this site while looking for ideas for SO’s birthday. Anyway, I got a little addicted and decided to stop just lurking and join up. Now, I’m not by any means planning a wedding or my engagement, but I most definitely would not say no if my SO asked. I am excited by the idea of spending the rest of my life with this man!
What I’m kind of amused/confused by is the fact that all of a sudden it seems that others are thinking about the same things I am looking at here… my cousin said she can’t wait for my wedding and even SO brought up making things more ‘official’. We discussed how much we like the idea of marriage and he even asked whether I would change/hyphenate/keep my last name after marriage. I don’t understand how/why all of this is coming up all of a sudden – it’s almost as if people have been looking through my history haha!
Sorry if this is long and boring, I just needed to get it out and talk to someone who isn’t involved so I can get some outside opinions. Should I be thinking a little more seriously about all of these things or am I reading too much into all of this? Is all of this just because we’re at a certain stage of our relationship or is it just coincidental? I can’t get my head around these conversations with SO! I feel like I’m going crazy because I thought I was thinking too far ahead and now it seems I may not have been?
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
I may have missed the main crux of your question but generally I’d say to think about stuff as seriously and when you want to. If your SO wants to have a serious discussion about the future then he’ll have to bring it up himself. Unless it’s something that you feel it’d be good to discuss?
He’s possibly bouncing these questions off of you to see how you might feel about marriage in the future without having to be completely direct about it.
Anyway good luck! 😀
Post # 4
Hey, Im a similar position. We’re at that part that I get lots of when you guys are married conversations. I personally think waiting is a state of mind. I’ve had close friends and read here about people driving themselves insane with the waiting. So if youre like me and it sounds like you are, just love and enjoy your SO as they are now. If your asking if you should get more interested/stressed about moving forward I would say unless you’re already feeling that stress, nope! Life’s stressful enough!
Post # 5
Thank you! Haha I think just thing about what veryone else is thinking and reading too much into everything is definitely driving me crazy. You’re right, I need to just enjoy this without over thinking things. It’s so much fun to look at rings and think about the future but only if I’m actually living now.
Thanks ladies, I just needed to process things a little. 🙂