Post # 1
I NEED to vent. What happened today potentially ruined the biggest most important day of my life!!!!
So today my boyfriend and I went over to his sister’s new husband’s mother’s house(thats a long one… did ya get it?) to talk to her about their wedding gift from my guy and I. So we got what we needed, and whatever, and we were standing at the door about to leave, and you know when you don’t know someone very well you participate in the small talk mumbo jumbo. So the fact I am watching her brand new grandson came up, and she asked why I can’t work next thursday and friday. And I’m like I do work. And she says that my guys sister texted her asking if she could babysit on those days becuase she wont have day care, meaning I wont be there to watch him. So I blow it off like she must have it wrong… whatever… lets move on. So shes like let me get my phone to double check… so as she is looking for her phone in the other room my guy says F***. I don’t get it at all. So she comes back and reads it to me and is like yeah… His siter needs day care next thursday and friday becuase apparently I’m not going to be there. WHAT? So I ask my guy… I’m like… we aren’t going anywhere right? We will be here right? And he says kinda. So we say good bye and leave. And he says take that thought out of your head, you are not supposed to know about that, and to forget it.
What the h? Did domeone I don’t even know just completely ruin EVERYTHING for us???? So now I know that something is happening next weekend, but I have no clue what. And my guy is acting soooooo weird. Like its been 4 hours since this thing happened and he has said maybe 4 words. I can tell he is just soooo upset and sad and frustrated. And we cant talk about it!! That is the worst part! Cuz I still dont know anything… about anything… but he is acting so freaked out. This is horrible.
Whatever is happeneing… do you think it will still be just as special even though I have some clue about this thing that is happening? And what if I get all worked up about it, and think its like THE TIME… and then he changes his mind cuz this lady ruined it? That would be miserable!!! AHHH. I feel like screaming! And there is no one I can talk to about this cuz I am pretty sure if I do they will reveal more cuz I’m pretty sure EVERYONE around me already knows!!!
Poop. I’m so depressed.
Post # 3
I’m sorry! It does sound like something is going to happen, but don’t let this ruin it. It’s an honest mistake and y’all can’t go back now. Have fun next weekend though!
Post # 4
I know things seem like the end of the world right now, but I wouldn’t worry about it too much. My Fiance proposed a week after we had a big fight about him waiting too long to propose…and he had been planning it for weeks!
It just goes to show you that just because something doesn’t go quite as planned doesn’t mean it won’t be special. Remember, this is just between the two of you – it is important to have “the moment,” but it’s more important to have the positive memory of the event, no matter how it happened.
Try to take some deep breaths and remember that you have a Boyfriend or Best Friend who clearly cares so much about you that he went out of his way to try to surprise you. You obviously are very well loved! Enjoy that thought and keep it with you to brighten your day.
In either case, I hope you have a wonderful weekend, however it turns out!
Post # 5
Just try to do what he said – put it out of your head. Smile and try to put him in a better mood. It will happen when it happens, and if that’s what he was planning, it will happen soon! 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
No, it’s not ruined. If he is planning a proposal, you’ve just been clued in, that’s all. You don’t know how, you don’t know his whole plan, so some of it will still be a surprise. This gives you enough time to think about it so that you don’t hyperventilate or pass out when he asks. 😉
Post # 7
i’m sorry, but no, not everything is ruined. the man you love will ask you to marry him. so what if it’s not a 100% surprise, it will still be 100% perfect, imo.
Post # 8
don’t let this ruin it for you! some great is going to happen i’m pretty sure or else he probably wouldn’t be so upset.
you’re guys is probably trying to do something awesome for you!!
Post # 9
It will still be perfect!!! So you have a little idea about timing… you still don’t know exactly when or how so it will still be perfect! And 15 years down the road this will be a funny story to tell your kids!
Post # 10
oh no, what a bummer! but i’m sure she was made aware of her mistake afterwards. but you shouldn’t worry about it. it will still be special and the day isn’t ruined. just try to not think about it and go on from there. you never know which part of the day it’ll happen!
Post # 11
It will still be special – try to put it out of your head and act like nothings different – for your guy’s sake.
Post # 12
OH boo, there is always someone to open their mouth! I guess just try not to think about it…something big sounds like it may be happening..but TRY not to focus on it!! Just forget about it, and maybe that’ll help your guy relax too 🙂
Post # 13
No, it will be a funny part of the story later. It does sound like he’s doing some planning for something special. As much as you can, try to push it out of your head. Remember he’s probably super pissed and embarrassed that the news slipped and asked you for “forget you heard it”. We all know you can’t forget you heard it, but for his sake just try to go along your merry way like you didn’t hear it, he’ll feel better and more likely to just forge ahead with what he’d been doing!
In my relationship, I have a way of sabotaging ANY surprise the Fiance plans out, including our engagement. It just happens, I don’t even mean to do it. In fact, we just moved and he bought a new couch and wanted to surprise me with it. He had this picture of me walking in teh door from work and seeing it and being so happy. But, I woke up and called in sick to work so I could rest and work on the unpacking more. He said “Why can’t I ever surprise you?!” and at this point, it has turned into a joke between us. I so appreciate how he tries!
Just relax, keep yourself busy for the next week and BREATHE! Consider it an opportunity to think of some nice clothes you’d like to bring along. 🙂
Post # 14
The jewelry store where my fiance got the ring sent the appraisal to our house in an unsealed envelope that had the name of the store on it. His name and address was handwritten and it was CLEARLY not junkmail. It was a week before our 4-year anniversary and I had planned a vineyard picnic for our anniversary and my fiance was WAY too interested in all the details of this picnic. I figured that would be the day he asked me and I was bummed that the surprise was ruined.
We went to the vineyard and I just tried really hard not to think about it. We were unpacking the cooler and he handed me a bottle of wine that said “will you marry me?”. Yes, I sort of knew it was coming but his proposal was so amazing and creative that I was still blown away and VERY happy.
Post # 15
Thank you everyone for all your support 🙂 that really helps me feel a lot better 🙂 Thank you
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery
Well try and put it out of your mind just in case even if you think you know when it is coming our guys can be crafty and they can find a way to trick you up…making you think it won’t happen and then it does when you least expect it!