Post # 1
So my FI’s bachelor party is this weekend! I am actually kind of jealous I can’t go lol. They’re going paintballing, visiting a comedy club, going to a casino, partying it up in a hotel room and then having a superbowl party the next day.
Anyway, yesterday I had a shower and after everyone had left my Fiance was talking about his bachelor party with his family. His sister said that their dad should have been invited! My Fiance and I had no idea! I mean it’s no problem, he can totally come if he wants (although I doubt he’ll want to stick around for the drunken hotel room party lol).
Are fathers always supposed to be invited to the bachelor party? I always thought it was just for the groom and his friends (“bachelors”).
I guess I thought it was kind of odd? I mean my Fiance is not having strippers or anything like that at his party, but would dads still be expected to be invited if there were lol?
Post # 3
I had the same question before. Apparently, a lot of people think the Future Father-In-Law should be invited, but like you I found this a bit odd. It does seem like it would be harder for your Fiance and his friends to let loose and have fun with the father around. That’s just my opinion.
Post # 4
@Bichon Frise: I don’t think any of the guys will mind him coming, I mean he used to play paintball with them (although apparently he’s a really good shot and he often beats everyone so that might be a downer lmao). I guess I am more curious if fathers are supposed to be invited even if there are strippers? Isn’t that kind of awkward lol? I guess it depends on what kind of relationship the groom has with the dad.
Post # 5
My Father-In-Law attended both DH’s and my BIL’s bachelor parties. My step dad was invited to DH’s but he opted not to go since he doesn’t drink and probably wouldn’t have had a good time.
I think it depends on the kind of relationship that they have and what the guys are going to be doing. Then again, Darling Husband and my BIL had two VERY different parties (my BIL’s would rate MA while DH’s was kept PG13) and my Father-In-Law was in attendance for both.
Post # 6
I answered the previous thread as well. All of the guys in Darling Husband circle, their fathers attended their bachelor parties. I don’t think he has to invite him but some just are comfortable with their dads and I know none of these guys change or act different bc dad is around. It’s nothing new to us but they also don’t have crazy parties either; they usually camp, hunt etc. Not everyone sees this as “bidding farewell to single life” I did that when I became serious with Darling Husband, not the week prior to my wedding.
Post # 7
Personally I feel that whether one is having a tame spa day bachelorette or dinner with winetasting bachelor party or something raunchy with strippers that inviting parents is odd. I feel like it’s a time for the bride-to-be or groom-to-be to bid farewell to their single life with their friends and that it’s not a time to include mom or dad.
Post # 8
My Father-In-Law went to my Darling Husband bach party. They did golfing, dinner out and played poker back at the house.
Post # 9
@Cappugcino: Yeah I just kind of always assumed that it was a friends thing rather than a family one. I’m not having a bachelorette at all, so I didn’t even consider this until now lol.
Post # 10
@Cappugcino: My mom and aunt both attended my bachelorette party and I loved having them there. My Mother-In-Law was supposed to come too but she came down with a stomach bug earlier that day. I think it’s perfectly normal to involve your parents or other older family members as long as the relationship is there and the party isn’t involving anything that they would be uncomfortable with. Now that I’m older and her job is (for the most part) done, my mom is more like my friend than my mother. I feel the same way about my aunt, too. I wanted them there and I’m happy that they participated.
Post # 11
Every bachelor party I’m familiar with had both the father and the in-law invited (and I did think this strange, at first). Still, at least you know nothing TOO crazy can “go down.”
Post # 13
I voted other, because I think it depends on what they are doing, and the relationship between your Fiance and Future Father-In-Law. My husband’s bach party was only him and his friends went to a local bar and drank. Father-In-Law went as well, and I came at the end of the night so I could take everybody home. They all had a great time
Post # 14
It would only be akward if his father doesnt have the same personality as his son. Ive heard of fathers attending these parties. They are not uptight non drinking dads tho. It all depends on his personality.