Is food your top priority for your wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Food
Post # 2
3452 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

Food taste and quality was a top priority for us but that doesn’t mean it has to be expensive. We wanted to make sure it was delicious. I wouldn’t have served guests anything I didn’t enjoy eating.

Post # 3
6624 posts
Bee Keeper

Food and open bar. We had the most perfectly cooked filet mignon and I was SO happy. We are total foodies and really wanted our guests to have a great meal (no wedding chicken here!). 

We didnt do cake though. I hate most wedding cake, so we did pies. Apparently some people were horrified that we didnt cut a cake XD 

Post # 4
6659 posts
Bee Keeper

I have to say the group of people is what really makes or breaks a wedding for me, but food is second. People don’t tend to eat much bad food and people who don’t eat tend to leave early or drink too much on an empty stomach and then behave poorly. Music is third. I’ll remember the company I enjoyed (or didn’t) and the food/drink long after I’ve forgotten the centerpieces or so many other things. 

I happen to like good pulled pork; if you are having a casual wedding it sounds like a crowd-pleasing choice if accompanied by enough sides to accommodate people who don’t eat pork. 

Post # 5
4497 posts
Honey bee

Yes, top priority.  For the most part, what your guests are going to remember are food, drink, and music/entertainment – whether good or bad.  Those are the essential elements of any party, whether it’s birthday, wedding, graduation, or just a regular dinner party.  They aren’t going to remember your flowers or your color scheme or your centerpieces or how you styled your hair.  They may notice them in the moment, but that’s not what they are going to remember months down the road.  They will remember being well-fed, delicious food, dancing and having a good time.  By that same token, they will also remember not having enough food, being served horrible food, having to pull out their wallet for drinks, and crappy DJs who play music that’s hard to dance to or who change it up and interrupt a lot.  People still share a look whenever topic of my one friend’s wedding came up – catering couldn’t pull it together to get food out timely and people finally just ordered pizzas or left early and hit a drive-thru.

Post # 6
1408 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Food was a main priority for my wedding, because I wanted my guests to enjoy their meal and I wanted something different than the standard wedding fare. We had chicken & waffles, jambalaya, candied yams, shrimp and grits, etc…Crappy food kind of makes a wedding unenjoyable (for me, at least). I am not big on dancing or drinking so if the food sucks at a reception, there’s not much else for me to enjoy.

I’ve been to 2 weddings recently-one, all they had was a little bit of turkey, a dip and cake… was a dinnertime reception, and I was miserable and I got fast food on the way home. It was a gorgeous location, beautiful ceremony but I was so hungry!! The other wedding I actually was a Maid/Matron of Honor for, it was also beautiful, ceremony was enjoyable but the caterer was awful and the food was almost inedible for me. It sucked because I hadn’t eaten all day, it was like 7PM and I was starving and this lady had made instant sweet potatoes and just all around weird food (fish with ginger snaps?!!). Also disappointing. For both of these weddings the food ruined it for me!

But that being said, I don’t think food has to be expensive. I think pulled pork is fine if you have some other options as well. As long as the food tastes good and there’s enough that’s what matters to me. I see you said you get a nervous stomach so that’s a reason you’re not caring too much about the food-it really should be about the guests! I will say too I hate the taste of walmart cake (tastes greasy and fake) and would always prefer a bakery cake. Food is just super important to me okay lol so is dessert. I look so forward to wedding cake!!

Post # 7
2135 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Pulled pork sounds delicious. I have been to some weddings with incredible food and several weddings with mediocre food. I’d rather have some good pulled pork with sides than a mediocre fancier dish. 

We enloped and went out to eat afterward, so I have no personal experience on the matter. 

Post # 9
94 posts
Worker bee

soontobemrstee :  Food & Open Bar were our priorities. Luckily our venue (a country club) was great, we had 5 people compliment the filet mignon the next day, lol! My husband ate his ENTIRE meal. Ha, he was not the “oh I didn’t eat a thing at the wedding” grooms 🙂 And we were very snobby about the premium open bars, but our venue let us pick & choose our liquors and wines and beers. We subbed Jameson for Crown and Guinness for Newcastle 🙂 We also had 2 different wedding cakes and an ice cream bar. And ALL the appetizers (5 different passed) and a cheese display and crudite display. No one was walking away from our wedding hungry, lol! 

Post # 10
924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Food was a top priority for me, but not a top expense—not even close! I knew from the jump that I wanted to have a BBQ buffet regardless of my wedding’s formality. BBQ is delicious and affordable, and with the buffet everyone can eat as little or as much as they prefer. I was never going to pay $100/plate for dry chicken and over cooked steak. I know that not all wedding food is that bad, but our venue is in the middle of nowhere. I don’t think that traditional wedding food would reheat that well. 

Post # 11
1717 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Food is extremely important to us. We have amazing food with an amazing menu. I’m so excited. 

Open bar and good music are close 2nds. 

Post # 12
2527 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I guess i’d say food and open bar are also our priorities, but that said, we aren’t spending the most amount of money on them. We found a very reasonable caterer near our venue so the cost is lower than i’d anticipated. Open bar – our venue allows us to bring out own alcohol so this will save us probably thousands of dollars. We’re splurging a little on the dessert as well, and we’re doing a late night snack (pizza!). 

Post # 13
2587 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Good food is definitely important to us. I don’t care if it’s fast food or high-end – it has to taste top notch! Ideally the meat would be organic, else I’d have the vegetarian option.

At our wedding reception we had fine dining. I enjoyed it less because of the day but my family finished what I couldn’t eat and they were very happy with their meal. Food and drink to my family is what pulls us together – even if the conversation is lacking at least the meal was good! It’s very communal and it brings everyone together. It’s my favourite thing. I can’t imagine purposely serving poor food! I’d have saved on something else if it were a money issue.

Post # 14
182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

food is one of our biggest expenses and things we are concerned with, due to our wedding being so close to the Canadian Thanksgiving next year we opted for a traditional turkey dinner and i am very much looking forward to that,

Post # 15
9690 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Food and an open bar were a top priority for us. Our focus was making sure our guests had a great time and I think people are more likely to have a good time if you give them good food and free booze.

Our caterer was awesome and the food was so delicious! Our wedding was over a year ago and we just got complimented again on our wedding and they specifically mentioned the food.

My husband is kind of a beer snob so having good beer was a top priority for him. We offered 5 different types of beer, all local and taste tested by my husband. We got a lot of compliments on the beer selection too. We also had wine and liquor as we wanted to make sure people had a good selection to choose from.

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