(Closed) Is gardening more important than home improvements?

posted 8 years ago in Home
Post # 4
5762 posts
Bee Keeper

I know how you must be feeling,and the excitement of moving in to a new home and wanting to fix it up to your taste right away,but it really is important to live in a place for awhile before making any major changes. For some people, painting is a first step. I understand wanting to make it your own,with your own taste and style,but I also think what you may initially want may change. Depending on how the property is situated on the lot and how much light you get in various rooms throughout the day,will help you determine what colors will work best. Sometimes paint colors become dreary and depressing (like greys and beiges) and will have different base colors that can take then from Wow! to dull. Many beige colors have pink undertones, and some greys become way too dark in a room with few windows.

She’s probably trying to save you from having to re do things over the next few months. I’ve been in my current home for 12 years,and up til 2 years ago,I repainted my dining room every year! I just couldn’t get it right,and every time I walked through it I couldn’t believe my ‘eye’ was so off. The same for my foyer. I’m usually pretty decisive when it comes to color,but those 2 areas drove me crazy.

My daughter moved in to her new house a few weeks ago and wants to jump in and paint too. The house was freshly painted a soft creamy neutral,but all she sees is ‘white walls’….until I pointed out the contrast between the walls and white woodwork. lol She has a neutral pallet to start with and we told her to make changes slowly as they live there and follow the light patterns in her rooms. So far,she’s listening,but who knows for how long?

Landscaping is important to a property,but I think as long as things are neatly trimmed,you can tackle that later on. Maybe she’s suggesting it because of the season right now and trying to give you the gardening bug she has. I’d smile and listen to her,but it IS your house where YOU will live…not her. Unless she’s paying for what you want to do,she can really only offer her suggestions. I’d thank her and move on if it were me.

You’ll figure it out! Don’t let her drive you crazy. 🙂

Post # 6
472 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant

I say change what you want!  When we moved in to this house, we itched to make changes too.  We painted the kitchen about the boldest color of orange possible–probably something that your Future Mother-In-Law wouldn’t approve of, but we still love it two years later.  If you know your tastes, I say go for it.  If you change your mind later, who cares?  That’s part of homeownership and it can be fun sometimes, stressful other times, but you’ll learn it all yourself!  

I think the email you sent to your fi should help a bit if he brings it up with his mom, but don’t expect her to get on board completely.  Just make your decisions confidently and then go ON AND ON in front of her about how much you LOVE the new color/windows/trim, etc, lol!  Good luck!

Post # 7
5762 posts
Bee Keeper

I get it! I painted my living room many years ago a beautiful brownish red. I thought my family would die when they saw it. All our furniture is light colored with creams and beiges,and it looked beautiful against the walls. We left it that color for many years and I loved it.

I did our guest room with chocolate brown walls and white trim. Again,pretty dark and bold for a smallish room,but it looked great and it stayed like that for a number of years until I decided to lighten up in there.

Our kitchen walls are now a deep color by Benjamin Moore called Alexandria Beige…but it looks wonderful with the lighter cabinets and floor.

See a pattern? I’ve never followed the norm or ‘rules’ when it comes to painting,because I’ve never been afraid to make a mistake. Paint is cheap and gives instant gratification to me,and I’ve never minded doing it. New wall color gives me the bigggest boost and makes me excited to redecorate and recycle what may have been relegated to the basement when I got bored with it.

I was on a wallpaper kick about 15 years ago too,but not now. All of our wallpaper put up by me,is now gone. Too limiting for me,but it is good for hiding less than perfect walls.

Have fun with your new house!

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