(Closed) Is getting a hotel room for wedding night worth it?

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Do you think booking a semi-fancy hotel for wedding night for around $350 is worth it?

    yes, it's special and you can avoid the stress

    No, not worth it for $350

    Book a hotel for his family, so you can go back to your place in peace

  • Post # 2
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    Bumble bee

    Hmmm. I would say it’s probably worth it, only because it seems so ordinary to go home afterwards. You only get married once. Maybe the hotel would give you a discount or some freebies since it’s your wedding night.

    Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2015 - Country Club

    I’m in the process of picking a hotel for us to stay at. I live in a good size city but it mostly has Holiday Inn type hotels. The few higher end hotels are either downtown (I also hate the whole parking thing, let alone walking in my dress in the middle of the night) or at a nearby casino. I priced out the casino and they are a minimum of $299+ tax for a basic king room (the lady kept a straight face when she told me the others were $399+tax and $499+tax). For a room I’m going to just crash in I couldn’t justify the cost. We’ll be staying locally at a Holiday Inn or something similar. 

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

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    iheartpeonies:  i was torn too as well. we are in your similar situation – hotel rooms are pricey, family staying at our house etc. however, when we thought about just heading home after this amazing party with our family staying in the rooms just down the hall from us – meh.. kinda took away from the magic of the honeymoon night. So we decided to splurge and stay at a very expensive hotel downtown. plus we’re getting breakfast in bed! the thought of having a few hours in the morning with just the two of us and no family getting ready in the kitchen down the hall or the normal noises in our house in the morning, made our decision even easier and i am frankly looking foward to it!

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee

    We are staying at the St. Regis for our wedding night – I think it will be totally worht it to be in a fancier hotel the night of! Plus they do extra things for your wedding night.

     

    I think… worth it. Better than just going home. This is a very special night!!!

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

    I really wouldn’t spend that kind of money if it were me.  I would just go home and tell your families you want some “alone” time, they’ll understand! 

    Also, as for the wedding night, we didn’t do ANYTHING except pass out exhausted! We saved the fun stuff for the first night of our honeymoon! 

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee

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    iheartpeonies:  I would say worth it, but that’s a lot of money, we had a hotel night included with our reception venue (no it’s not a hotel, but the company who owns it owns a few hotels), I’m looking forward to just decompressing and relaxing with my then husband just the two of us. Boot your family out and tell them you want time just the two of you, this is a special moment for you two!

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    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Hotel room was the best $350 I spent on the wedding.  We got in at 3am and they gave us ice cream, and let us stay late the next morning.  The shower was big enough for two, the bed was amazing, we actually felt good the next day.  Plus who wants to have your parents in the next room?  Gross.  You need some time in a bubble to just be happy (and screw).

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

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    iheartpeonies:  Does your venue have a relationship with certain hotels. Sometimes they pay for the bridal suite or are able to get you a good deal. Also, I think it’s worth it if its under $300- that is $150 per person and it is your wedding night! I wouldn’t want to go back to a packed house!

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

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    iheartpeonies:  i think you should do it. After your wedding day you will def want to have some alone time with your hubby, even if you just pass out. the few days before your wedding are so full of family, no way I’d want to come home to them again on my wedding night. Plus, the morning after you’ll be able to lounge around in peace until 11am. 

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee

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    iheartpeonies:  we booked a fancy suite that was literally less than a mile from our apartment. we just wanted to treat ourselves. however, if we had been on a tight budget then no, I wouldn’t have booked a special room. that’s money that could go to so many other things. 

    edit: I didn’t see the part where your family will be staying at your house. that sucks. I would at least go with something less costly or try to kick them out for the night. 

    Post # 12
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Ordinarily I’d say it’s not worth it, but if I had family staying at my house it wouldn’t feel very relaxing or private to go home. Sure, you won’t make the most of all the hotel has to offer in that short time, but it might be worth giving yourselves that extra gift of time together before returning to your family and reality. If you can afford it, I say go for it!

    Post # 13
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    Busy bee

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    iheartpeonies:  The hotel we booked a block of rooms in for our guests offered us a free upgrade to a suite, so we accepted for two nights…the night before I stayed there alone (we didn’t want to see each other before the ceremony) and we planned to both stay the night of the wedding.

    By the time the reception began to wind down, though, the appeal of the hotel room had died and all we wanted was to head back to our own home and sleep in our own bed as husband and wife, so we gave our room key to some family and headed back to our place.

    [A funny side note, however: my parents didn’t know we were home and let themselves in at 9:00 in the morning to drop off gifts/decorations/etc. and start setting up for a family BBQ we were having to say goodbye to all of our Out of Town guests before they left. I heard them come in and came out to help while my new hubby slept. Shortly after, I went with my mom to run some errands…when DH woke up, he walked out of the bedroom in his boxers and yelled, “good morning my beautiful wife!”….thinking it was me sitting in the living room watching TV; it was my dad. Awkward.]

    Post # 14
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    I accidentally voted no but I think it’s definitely worth it! It’s your wedding Day and the night is just as important as the morning and afternoon, do it!

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