(Closed) Is getting a “used diamond” realy that big of a deal?

posted 10 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Would you be unhappy with a "used diamond"

    Yes, I want the ring to be brand new

    No, all diamonds are super old anyways

  • Post # 32
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    @SuzySchmoozy: No on my computer, they’re sideways, but that’s it.

    Post # 33
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    when I think of new, I think “newly cut”. you’re right, all diamonds (from mines) are super old! 

    well, the only downside I see in getting a used diamond is that it might come with some damage. sometimes damage can compromise the strength of the entire diamond so you might want to get it checked before you buy. 

    my vintage diamond has chips around the edge- it’s common, called a “bearded girdle”. (tee hee hee– beards!) anyway, they don’t compromise the strength of the diamond overall. also, you can’t really see it with the naked eye unless you look at it under a very strong light.  I love my old ring, and I love knowing my it has a history. 

    Post # 34
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    @MrsFuzzyFace: exactly.

    My diamond is used, but we got it from a local jeweler, I am glad it was used, I was convinced I wanted a diamond alternative  (moissy, asha, etc.), because I wanted to be financially, socially, and environmentally responsible, and that was how I thought it had to be done. But my center stone is previously used so while different than I thought it would be, it was still responsible in all of those ways, and my DH was totally against not getting a “real” diamond, so it fulfills both of our requirments Smile. Also since it was used it was GIA certified (which is not very common in our small town, and was a non negotiable for DH) so my DH knew he wasn’t getting ripped off.

    Post # 35
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I have no problem with used rings.  Fiance and I definitely looked at pawn shops and the such for my ring, though he ended up choosing one from a jeweler in Israel on eBay.  I would only have an issue with the ring being used if it had originally been given to an old girlfriend or if it were an heirloom ring that had been used recently in a marriage that ended in divorce.

    Post # 36
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Even if you buy a diamond from a jeweler, how do you know it wasn’t traded in by someone for an “upgrade?” I’d would be willing to bet that more of us are wearing “used” diamonds vs. ones that are newly cut. It’s not like every diamond in the store came fresh out of the mine hahaha 🙂

    Post # 37
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I would have loved to pick out a beautiful used ring but my Fiance wanted to buy one from a jeweler for the lifetime protection plan. I wouldn’t take a ring that was his ex wifes or anything like that though.

    Post # 38
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I wouldnt care as long as it wasnt an ex fiance ring or anything like that lol.

    If so id sell it and buy myself my own hahaha!

    other than that I dont care. (pawn shop, bought off family or friend etc.. )

     

    Post # 39
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Buying a ring in a jewlery store doesn’t guarentee that the stone has never been worn. There are many times where the store will have a bench jeweler reset the stone because they can then sell it for more than they could a “used” diamond.

    Antiques are beautiful, and the craftsmanship is INCREDIBLE!! I personally find antique cuts FAR more appealing than a modern cut.

    As long as the ring wasn’t a ring he meant to give to a previous relationship, it’s silly to spend TONS more on a “new ring”, when you can get a ring from IdonowIdont.com or Recycledbride.com for so much less.  

    Post # 40
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Hmm, as long it wasn’t given to an ex partner or something then I see no harm. I like vintage rings and as long as I got a say in what the style was, I would be thrilled with it, regardless if it was not a shiny new one 🙂

    Post # 41
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My Fiance gave me his Grandma’s ring…  I think it is so special I get to be a part of this rings life! I am not a fan of most of the ‘new’ rings or diamonds out there….  and most ‘new’ diamonds are made artificially.  I love how clear my ‘old’ diamond is! 

    Post # 42
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Used/Pre-Loved/Handed Down is one thing, a re-gift of a ring bought for another intended is where I’d draw the line. And for pawn/ebay, I’d really want him to do his research first and be making a wise decision, rather than just ‘woohoo, cheaper rings.’ Mine’s a family ring and I love it, so no hating on used jewerly here. I’d just be more concerned about the history of the ring and the intent behind going with a ‘used’ ring.

    Post # 43
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I am super dooper frugal by nature, so Yes, a used diamond is OK by me, a ring intended for an ex, is not. Clearly 2 different things here.

    In fact, I got a $10k diamond on Craigslist for $2600! This guy was selling this ring only because his wife of 30 yrs wanted an upgrade for their anniversary. It is certified (laser inscribed), 1.4 ct, came with paperwork and appraisal. The seller was willing to meet me at a jeweler of my choice so we could verify the stone and value. Everything checked out above and beyond, the stone was 100% in tact with no chips or fractures, we confirmed that it had not ever been enhanced or filled, and the appraisal was accurate with the 4 C’s and worth. Hubby and I simply then picked out a diamond mounting that I liked and we had the stone reset. I couldnt be more in love with my beautiful sparkly ring, and I LOVE that we scored a diamond of such quality and size for a 1/4 of the retail price. Today MY new ring is insured for its appraised value of $12,000, including the new mounting, and we paid a total of $3600. ( I got a HUGE deal on the mounting too..Yayyyy!)

    Before and After

    Post # 44
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    as long as it doesnt look “used” i.e.- cloudy yellowed…. then I wouldnt mind 🙂

    Post # 45
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    Busy bee

    If you like getting the best deal for your money, I think a used ring is absolutely a perfect plan! (Obviosly not if it were ment for an ex, but that is a whole other issue).

    I know of a few people who got absolutely gorgeous (and expensive) rings for a wonderful price.

    Post # 46
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    Buzzing bee

    If it’s vintage, I’ll take it. Failed relationships, either his or someone else’s, no thanks. I’d rather not have a ring if that’s where he’s getting it.

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