Post # 1
I know traditionally you only have Maid/Matron of Honor and the rest are bridesmaids but I really want to have both my very best friends (one of whom had me as her MOH) as well as my little sister. I don’t want them because I feel obligated but because I think all three of them would each do a great job. But I just dont know if its too much. I am wondering if I should have no Maid/Matron of Honor and make all the bridesmaids equal or say screw it and have the three. Any advice?
Post # 2
The point of having a Maid/Matron of Honor is to elevate one over the others in respect so if they are all at the same level I would just call them all bridesmaids however I’m not you and if that’s the way you would prefer to do it I don’t think anyone will mind
Post # 3
I’d rather no Maid/Matron of Honor than three. It takes away from the special title when you just hand it out to so many.
Post # 4
I had 3 BMs and no Maid/Matron of Honor. All 3 were equally important to me so I couldn’t pick one to be “above” the others. I just divided the traditional Maid/Matron of Honor responsibilities among them. 1 signed the license, 1 gave the speech, and the other 1 stood by me and held the bouquet. Worked great!
Post # 5
While my approach would mirror the previous posters and just have three equal bridesmaids rather than any Maid/Matron of Honor at all, I don’t get the point of asking the interwebs if it is “okay” for you to do something at your own wedding. This website is fun but honestly all of it other than the actual signing the papers and filing the legal paperwork is socially constructed. There may be norms around it, but no one needs permission from anyone to do it any way they please.
Post # 6
I have two! And the rest are bridesmaids. I say do whatever you like, It meant something to me to call the second one Maid/Matron of Honor as well as my sister and I don’t regret it at all xx
Post # 7
forrestandamandatietheknot: I love that you want to give the women closest to you the honor! I think that’s really sweet and I think if that’s what in your heart, do it. Friend of a friend had 3 girls and all three were designated as MOHs because she said they were all her bffs and equally important to her. The only problem I foresee is if you have additional girls in your party. It could be a bit awkward to have 3 MOHs and 2 bridesmaids, as they may feel a bit slighted.
Post # 8
I was Maid of Honor recently and there was also a matron of honour and a man of honour. But there were also 4 other bridesmaids.
I don’t see anything wrong with calling them your ‘maids of Honour’ instead of ‘bridesmaids’.
If you had 3 MOH’s and one Bridesmaid or Best Man then there would be a problem.
Post # 9
Do what you want!!
I will be having 2 Maid/Matron of Honor. Both my sisters. I have a bff and another close friend that if I decide to go a bit bigger wedding wise, I’ll add them as Bridesmaid or Best Man. But my 2 sisters are my world and no way I can pick between them.
Post # 10
I will be having 2 MOHS. I have been a Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding where I was the only Maid/Matron of Honor and in a wedding where I was Co-MOH. Trust me when I say that 3 is too many. If it were you I would just pick either my two friends or just my sister.