(Closed) Is having a ceremony and reception a year later after we get married a bad idea?

posted 4 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Jennifferq:  As long as your guests know you’re already married, I don’t see an issue with having a vow renewal/marriage blessing/declartion of marriage and a reception later.

I agree that if you have a ceremony and invite people you should also have some sort of reception to thank your guests for coming.  However, the reception doesn’t need to be a lavish affair.  You could have an afternoon wedding and serve appetizers or cake and punch afterwards.  You could use an iPod for music and have it last only a couple of hours.  Or you could have a small wedding with a chill backyard BBQ.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Jennifferq:  just make it a 1 year anniversay party to celebrate.

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@RunsWithBears:  You could have an afternoon wedding and serve appetizers or cake and punch afterwards. +1

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Jennifferq:  I’d scrap the whole “get married, do the ceremony/reception later” idea and just plan one day of celebration.  If you’re not into weddings, per se, why not just have a small guest list, say your vows in a park, and have a nice cookout afterwards?  It doesn’t have to be a certain way or something over the top.

Post # 7
Hostess
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

If you’re not into having a reception why not just take your families out for dinner after the courthouse ceremony? 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I don’t think it’s a bad idea . . . I just think it’s kind of odd to have a ceremony a year later.

Why not just have a 1st-year anniversary reception with your friends/family?  You can still make it personal (photos from your wedding day, a cake-cutting, a first dance), but it won’t look like a delayed wedding.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My sister did something similar, which I thought was a little odd, but it actually worked out great. Her husband is Peruvian and they had to get married for visa/job reasons (dated for six years, then suddenly had a 2.5 month engagement!). With the multicultural aspect, no one was worrying about etiquette anyway. Also, my dad had a serious health problem right before my sister’s courthouse wedding and my parents missed it since we all live in different states (the Peruvian family flew in and it was supposed to be a ‘meet the parents thing’ . . oops). So the wedding they had one year later was the time when everyone got together. It was great because my dad was healthy, more Peruvians got to come with the longer notice, and her husband got to have the formal ceremony he wanted. No one minded they’d gotten legally married a year before (they hadn’t worn wedding rings or anything for the year and will be celebrating their anniversary on their big party date). In addition, the bilingual thing worked out too because they got a friend (who couldn’t officiate an actual wedding) who was bilingual to do the ceremony. Then my brother-in-law said his vows in Spanish and she said hers in English and it wasn’t important to repeat everything in both languages because they were already married anyway! That being said, having been to a couple of bilingual weddings, I definitely understand your angst about the mixing, especially if people aren’t into dancing. But amazingly, families do make an effort to at least say hello and nod at each other! And everyone will be a good sport about it if they are good family and friends.

Despite my enthusiasm, the other posters’ ideas are also great and if you aren’t into a party, just don’t do it – it’s a huge money/time/stress sink and people get over it quickly if you don’t do it. After attending my sister’s courthouse wedding, I have to admit I was impressed with how meaningful and special that can be, even if all you do is go out to dinner at a restaurant afterwards with your family. So if that’s what you want, just do it. You won’t regret it. But if you want to throw a big party to bring everyone together, then do that and people are generally gracious about the whole thing.

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