Post # 1
So, my Fiance and I are having an open bar at our wedding reception, with the works: Top shelf liquor, beer, wine, mixed drinks, etc. His family thinks a reception is not a reception unless it has an open bar. They all like to have fun, and so do I. BUT my only worry is that certain people in my family will take things a bit too far…
I am worried that some people in my family will drink too much and then drive home.
(yes, i know that they are adults. Yet, it’s happened before at previous weddings where people have been reckless and have drove home drunk.)
So, in an effort to protect my family and have everyone be safe on the roads, I was thinking of having the bar close an hour or half hour before the reception is over.
Have any other bees done this?
Is it tacky?
Should I just let them have their drinks and hope that they are responsible?
Am I worrying too much?
Post # 3
Last call is not tacky. Bartenders heed to start closing up shop. if your family is anything like mine, they will just order 2 drinks at that point.
Post # 4
I’m closing the bar half an hour before the reception ends, but we’re not announcing last call. My caterer said in her experience, everyone just goes up and double-fists as soon as last call is announced, so it defeats the purpose.
Post # 5
I would do last call abuot 30 minutes before the end of the reception. I would worry about closing an hour before and your reception basically ending an hour early!
I worried about this too, espically because my wedding is on New Year’s Eve.Have you considered looking into providing a shuttle for your guests? I know it’s an additional expense but maybe instead of “top shelf” liquor, you could do regular liquor and provide a shuttle to and from the reception to where you have your hotel block of rooms?
Post # 6
Our venue is doing last call 15 mins. before closing. I’m not sure if the DJ makes an annoucement, or they just make the annoucement to those surrounding who pass the word.
I don’t think it’s tacky. People like to know before they are cut-off. 🙂
Post # 7
I’d give drink tickets instead of having a totally open bar. Everyone gets 3-4 tickets. 3 or 4 mixed drinks/beer should totally be enough for anyone.
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s “tacky”, but I think people will probably just leave an hour earlier (i.e. 30 min after last call), which would defeat your purpose and end your party sooner. I would just do it a half an hour before. Perhaps you can arrange some kind of shuttle to a nearby hotel & offer the service to the guests? I know I would pay for a hotel if there were a shuttle so I wouldn’t have to worry about driving.
Post # 9
There are like 4 hotels (kid you not!) in walking distance from our venue. My hope is that if people are a lil tipsy, they’ll check in….
BUT my family is kinda cheap :X so I don’t think that would work… 🙁
Post # 10
Once the bar closes people will see it as the end of the reception. You can close it early, but people will likely leave soon thereafter.
Post # 11
Thanks Bees for all your help thus far! I’ve added a poll so more people can give their opinion! 🙂
Post # 12
@SarahVee: I think the best you can do is remind your guests that this is an option (perhaps on the wedding website)…maybe get a “block of rooms” at one, so people think they are getting a good deal. In the end, you really can’t control grown adults, and I don’t think doing last call early is going to aleviate your problem, sorry. People who are going to be irresponsible are going to be irresponsible.
Post # 13
I think, like PP’s have pointed out, that if you announce a last call people will just go up to the bar and get more than 1 drink. Just shut it down early without an anouncement if you are worried or leave it as is. You have to hope that adults will know their limits, and a bartender should cut off or at least make weak drinks for guests who are showing signs of being intoxicated.
Post # 14
@SarahVee: Actually, where I live it’s required that any establishment serving alcohol has to close out the bar a minimum of 30 minutes before the close of the business/party/etc. I would look into the rules for your area.
It’s perfectly normal for a bar to close 30 minutes before the end of the evening. That typically gives your guests some time to finish up their remaining drinks.
Post # 15
I don’t think it’s necessary to close it down an hour and a half before it’s over. If I’m not driving, I’m old enough to decide if I want another drink or not. They usually close the bar down about half an hour before it’s over as well.
I don’t think it will fix your problem either, people can still be drunk enough that an hour and a half won’t sober them up enough to drive. Is there someone who doesn’t really like to drink much in your family that you can assign to watch out for people at the end of the night? And then maybe request some taxis to come? A block of rooms nearby would also help.
Also, if I went up to the bar and it was closed I would assume the reception would be pretty much over (since that is when they usually close it). So I would probably leave shortly after that.
Post # 16
@kes18: In the OP i wrote “ an hour OR half hour before the reception is over”.
Not an hour and a half! That’s like half of my reception!!! Lol