(Closed) Is having a reception worth it?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We are getting married in the bahamas with only 8 people & having a reception when we get back.

Honestly if I had to do it all over again I would have done a cake & punch reception when we got back or a heavy apps mid day reception with no sitting. Dealing with vendors & my venue has been the hardest thing ever! The sneaky fees & not telling us stuff before putting down deposits.

Post # 4
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226 posts
Helper bee

After we bought our house, I changed my mind about having a big wedding/reception.  It just kind of put things into perspective.  If he wants one, maybe you can sit down and add up how much everything will cost, kind of show him how much it really is.  Until I found weddingbee I don’t think I really understood just how much it could cost. 

Reasons why I don’t want a big wedding and reception?  The number one reason is I think it’s a waste of money.  Number two?  It seems like way more work & stress than it’s worth…for me at least.  I’d rather put money towards buying things for the house or saving for our future family. 

I think I’ll end up having a very low-budget backyard wedding followed by a big house party.  Something simple and fun, just meant to celebrate us.  I feel like a lot of pressure has been put on couples to have these big weddings and kind of put on a show – entertain their guest. 

Post # 5
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1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@mizachan: "We are paying for most of the wedding ourselves. The amount of gifts wouldn’t justify the expenses we would take for a wedding reception."

Don’t go into it thinking this way. The purpose of a reception is not to receive gifts but to celebrate with friends and family. Gifts are a nice bonus but should not be expected.

We were on a tight budget too but we knew for sure that we wanted to have a party with everyone we love. We had to make a lot of sacrifices to make that happen but I am so glad we did. I can’t even describe to you what it felt like to be surrounded by all our friends and family in celebration of our union.

We did our reception at a restaurant…buffet, limited bar, and no frills. We didn’t spring for fancy linens or amazing centerpieces. No fancy favors or videographers.

You don’t have to spend a fortune to have a great reception.

But you also don’t have to have a reception if you don’t want one.

All I can tell you is that it can be done on a budget. And that it was the most fun and the best feeling I’ve ever had in my life.

Post # 6
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1115 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@lilybee: A backyard wedding & big house party sounds AWESOME.

Post # 7
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171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree, if I had a big backyard I would definitely do it!

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