(Closed) Is having an online RSVP tacky?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t think it’s tacky, but then again, I’m doing completely online invitations through Paperlesspost.com. It tells me if the invites have been delivered, if they have been read (both things that traditional mail can’t tell me), allows the guest to rsvp and add the event directly to their google calendar, outlook, or iphone, and it links to our wedding website. Paperless Post allows me to see all of this information/stats in an easily printable format. Our wedding is not going to be a particularly formal event and 98% of our guest list has an email address, so it’s a good fit for us.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We’re doing an ONLINE option on our website, they can call either one of our phones, or they can e-mail our dedicated wedding e-mail address.

I did not have the money to WASTE, yes, I said WASTE on little RSVP’s and those stupid little envelopes that no one would send back anyways and then STILL show up!

So, no, in my opinion, definitely not tacky! Very practical!

 

@HayleyJane: I seriously considered ONLINE invitations:) 🙂

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I don’t think it is tacky at all. but it is more casual. So as long as that casualness fits the vibe of your wedding, go for it. 🙂

Post # 6
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Honey bee

We did an online or phone option for those not internet savy. There are a ton of online rsvp sites.

We just got an invitation with an email address to rsvp to.

I like the idea not just for cost savings, but for green reasons. There is so much waste in a wedding!

We didnt have programs either for this reason. We had a large chalkboard with the people and their roles on it.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Definitely not tacky! I’m doing phone and online RSVP only.

I think you just need to know your guests. My guests barely want to RSVP in the first place.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This is our RSVP card/insert:

Everyone gets one. For those 8 or so guests that we know don’t use a computer, we will attach a postcard stamp to the back. Otherwise there are plenty of free options here…it may be overkill but seriously it’s ridiculous to spend all that money on stamps when almost every guest has access to the online RSVP.

 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t care if it’s tacky, I’m doing it! I know my family–I’ll have to call most of them to get an answer anyway–and there’s no way we can afford the extra cost of RSVP cards. And it makes so much more sense with anyone under retirement age.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I gave my guests my phone, email, website and paper RSVP.  I thought a lot of people would use facebook, text, website or email me. Boy was I wrong.  Only one person used the website. A couple people texted or emailed me.  95% of my guests mailed it back.  Then I felt bad because I assumed they would use an electronic method of reply so I didn’t put stamps on all of the reply cards. Oops!

ETA: Although, if I would have put a (preferred) next to one of my options, that might helped.  Great idea, @Wannabe-diy-bride. I love your RSVP.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper

nope, not tacky at all. practical and u will likely get faster replies.  

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Not tacky at all. I organized my whole guest list on theknot.com and allowed guests to rsvp right on our website. So far it’s organized everything pretty well. Why give yourself extra expenses uneccesarily. And not to mention, this is 2011 – snail mail is out. When was the last time you hand wrote a letter and popped it in the mail? It’s completely justifiable to do online RSVP’s and I guarantee the only ones who may be a little shocked would be those who are 50+

 

Good luck!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Not tacky at all! I am also using my wedding website for RSVP’s. Everyone will be on the website anyways cause it’s destination and everyone wants me to plan their trip for them lol. I’m putting all the info they need on the website like hotels, activities, directions, schedules, etc so it only makes sense to have the RSVP at the website as well. I still have 8 months to go till my wedding and I have already gotten a large amount of RSVP’s lol.

Post # 14
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Newbee

Nope not tacky, for the same reasons that previous posters mentioned.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

HAHA that’s what we’re doing.  I know that most of our friends would prefer to RSVP online anyway, so fo the people who I KNOW won’t care or will just tell us in person anyway (close friends), we’re not sending them RSVP cards just a link to the website, and the rest of the people, I”m doing it with paper.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think your idea is fine, particularly since you are sending traditional RSVP cards to those guests who may not be particularly internet-savvy.  I would just gear up for the fact that you most likely will have to track down a lot of your RSVPs; the few people that I know that have had online RSVPs have all had to do that. 

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