- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
Hello bees! I think my Christian husband is a sociopath. Here’s the reason why.
When we first met. He was a cool guy with no fault. He was married before, divorced twice with two kids. He never talked how he contributed to those divorces because to him it’s all the wive’s fault, I believed him because to me he appeared to be the perfect guy.
Most of the time he would be like “nobody knows me , even my mom doesn’t know what kinda person I am and it will remain like that.” I asked how can you say you wanna share your life with someone you love whereas you don’t want them to know the real you, he never answered. He could cheat and you caught him with solid evidence and all he can is ” if you look for something you will find it” so apparently according to him it’s my fault he cheated or it’s my fault I caught him and I shouldn’t ask him anything or sometime he could just say it to your face that it is what he chose to do and if it makes him happy nothing else matters.
I had a lot of friends before I met him, male and female friends most from high school. They would call me when I am with him and we would talk about general stuff and they respected my relationship, my husband wasn’t happy with all that he decide I change my mobile number And he gave me the one was used by his ex wife ( I didn’t know until her friends started calling demanding to talk to her) . I told him and I changed the number again, he started talking bad about my relatives and that I should cut them off in my life and I did because he is a very intelligent and a good influencer. He wanted me all to himself, all the attention I should get must come from him only. He made me deactivate Facebook, delete my Twitter account and change my email adress and left with What’s App only because that where he control my phone book so he will choose who I talk to. I thought that’s love plus he’s more experienced in life more than me plus the 9 year old gap between us. He cheated with a lot of women and slept with most of them, I have found out and when I confronted him he spinned the story and blame it all on me which he succeeded because now i think it’s all my fault he cheated.
He recently said he wants out of this marriage because he is tired of me, I don’t stop nagging, And I’m always on his case about who he chats to and where he goes with who and he is ryt on that because since he started cheating I find it hard to believe him especially that he don’t apologise or show remorse for his action. He started cheating less than 6 months in our marriage, and now he says he want to be alone women are sh#t and he wants nothing to do with them and God shouldn’t have created a woman because they bring stress to the world and they not worthy to be called humans .
He says his actions ( cheating ) got nothing to do with anyone and if someone get hurt on the way that’s their problem not his, he never hurt anyone and no one is capable of hurting him. He says im a psychopath and all I plan is to hurt him because I even told him side chick that I want to hurt him and I will never succeed , I told him she’s a liar and she will do anything to make you love her more than me and how can you believe her over me, he just said “he doesn’t trust psychopaths “.
We are not legally married, and he got a house and a car . I am not working but got college Diploma in Marketing Management. He says I should find a place to stay because he wants to sell the house. I have cut off many people in my life who were always there for me but now how can I get them back to my life. I’m crying non stop and don’t know what to do , and funny part is I still love this man so much after all the betrayals and heartache .