Is he abusive or am I crazy?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 46
417 posts
Helper bee

He has the worst kind of passive aggressive attitude ever! My ex was like that! There is nothing worse (or more hurtful) than someone treating you like crap, like you’re the worst person in the world and they hate you. And then when you ask them why they’re mad, they say “I’m not mad, I don’t know what you mean”. I guess that means you’re crazy! Or maybe you’re sane and he’s emotionally abusive! I vote for the latter. You made the right move and I wish you good luck! Please change your locks.

Post # 47
377 posts
Helper bee

Whether it’s classed as abuse or not to others the fact that you are questioning whether it is speaks volumes to me. You know deep down it’s an unhealthy relationship and are not happy in it so yes you did right to leave him. If you’d have stayed I’d have worried this would’ve got worse than it already is

hope you are ok 🤗

Post # 49
610 posts
Busy bee

You were right to break it off. Aside from the fact that he sounds like a total psycho, you simply weren’t happy with him. A relationship should bring GOOD things and feelings. This one didn’t. You’re right to move on!

Post # 50
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

You were definitely right to end it. Never stay in a relationship that doesn’t make you happy and that makes you question if he could turn physically abusive. I completely understand being afraid you’re being too cautious with having an abusive father. Mine wasn’t as bad as yours, but there are things I’ve had to keep myself in check about. Always trust your gut!

Post # 51
725 posts
Busy bee

Unless you’ve left out some key details, this is not abuse. 

It IS however time to leave him if his behaviour makes you upset and uncomfortable. 

He sounds like an immatue narcissist.

Best of luck xx

Post # 52
18 posts

First, let me say that I’m sorry you had to experience abuse firsthand growing up to know what signs to look out for in future partners. That’s really terrible. 

There are undoubtedly a lot of incidents/concerning behavior that you left out of your post for the sake of brevity. I’m also sure that there are a lot of small things you’ve subconsciously picked up on – tone of voice, microexpressions, body language, etc. that were raising red flags.

You made the right choice. You know what you’re doing. And even though we don’t know each other, I’m proud of you.

“Always trust your gut. It knows what your head hasn’t figured out yet.”

Post # 53
19 posts

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ladydee88 :  100% agree with you for leaving. I do NOT think you overreacted in the slightest. Even if it isn’t a precursor to serious abuse, the emotional toil is reason enough. More power to you for recognizing the BS and getting out. 

Post # 54
17 posts
  • Wedding: July 2018

 Get out now!


Post # 55
74 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2020

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ladydee88 :  I breathed a sigh of relief when I saw this update. I’m so glad you changed those locks! 


Yeah he definitely sounds abusive and I’m so glad you saw the signs in time to get yourself out! As some of the other bees said, if he starts threatening you or showing up to your house and won’t leave etc get the police involved! Praying that you stay safe 💜🙏🏼

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