- 4 years ago
Hi bees !
Okay well let me give you a bit of info of my new guy and see what you guys have to say about my issue that I feel I’m having right now.
okay well my SO is a nice guy, he always pays for meals and lil stuff if we go to a grocery shop if we need a drink or what ever but heats it !
Ok so we have been dating for 2 months and some change.
Since this time frame valentines day and my birthday came and went.
for vday he bought me a 500 $ watch that I chose, I deff know he didn’t want to spend that much because he was sending me pictures of watches that cost 200$ or less.
For my bday he was going to get me a MK bag but when he told me about it i politly told him I don’t want a MK bag and he asked what I wanted because he doesn’t know what I would like because I’m so picky (which I am). Okay I told him I wanted a LV bag which costs 1100$ he said okay but he needed like a weeek to get it.
It’s been 2 weeks since my bday… He hasn’t mentioned anything about it and I’m deff not bringing it up. ( okay let’s say he was tight on money … Which is an okay excuse I told him many times to just tell me straight up and it would not bother me the least bit) but he’s the one that said okay
The other day we were in the city were the LV store was located and he could of bought it for me then but no. Again we go the city same week and this time I wanted to test him and see if he would buy me somethung if we were in a store. So I go into sephora and I was going to chose a Perfume and eyeliner but I didn’t want to be too much so I just chose the 12$! eyeliner and he asked as we were infront of the checkout if I needed some cash in a shady way .,deff seemed like he said it to be polite and I said no it’s fine I got it and that was it. I was boiling instead. I could not believe it !! like rlly ?? …( and FYI while we were doing other activities before we got to sephora I seen the amount of money he had on him while he was pulling it out. Trust me he had enough to buy me 20 eyeliners and take me out to dinner. Smh
my whole attitude changed after we got out of sephora. I was trying soooo hard to smile and be funny like I usually am.., but I couldn’t .., I didnt want him thinking I got mad about him not buying me a 12$ eyeliner it’s the way it happend and how he only asked once and was so corny about it.
Maybe I should of said this in the begging but my X which I don’t want to go in detail about neverrrrrr let me pay for anything and would insist untill he caused a scene. He made me feel so secure.
Dont get me wrong I’m not saying a guy should always pay and the gal should never offer and do the same in return but in the beginning of a relatinship I deff expect a man to woo me and show me how he is while with a girl.
and I’m deff not belittling his other efforts I’m not but … just feel differently about him for some reason. After we got out of the store he knew I was different and we had plans on going to dinner and I told him I’m tired ill order something at home. He was trying to be extra nice while walking to the car and driving back home. Asking if he could buy me some food to take home and also wanted to buy my mom flowers for her bday which was 2 days ago. We couldn’t find any 24hr flower shop open so he said he will drop it off next day. well today has came and no flowers it mention of them at all. Smh …. Why even bother saying anything at the moment when your not going to do it. That rlly pissed me off.
Do you bees think I’m over exaggerating …? Is he cheap ? Frugal ? Wierd ????
I know I know im going to get some Nasty remarks saying I’m a gold digger which I’m not ! I’m always thinking and searching for things to buy for him and I took him to a Knicks game before he bought me a watch or anything.
should I wait and give him more tests … Do guys change after they know a woman for a long time… He says he loves me and all that extraness
share some stories of yours ….
Thanks in advance ladies 🙁 …