(Closed) Is he commitment phobic or normal?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 286
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Op,you cannot trust someone based on what they say. You have to trust them based on what they DO. Don’t you know that?? I’ve had men on the street tel me that I have a nice ass and that they want to marry me. Ive had men tell me that im the one before a one night stand, and then dump me the next day. People lie ALl the time!  If a guy says he wants children with you and then refuses to have sex with you without a condom,does that mean that he wants children with you?  No, it means he is lying and stalling. You CANNOT go by people’s words. Its their ACTIONS that speak volumes. Words are just “blah blah” without the actions to back them up. You also cannot force someone to love you or be with you just because you have decided that you want to be with them. Your ex is an adult with his own mind. He does not want to be with you. Accept it.

Post # 287
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1553 posts
Bumble bee

morningcoffee:  I’m somewhat disappointed that OP hasn’t raised the bar by now with an unexpected pregnancy or something. It’s been the same broken record for far too many pages now. Mix it up with some new info!!

Post # 288
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111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Post # 289
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836 posts
Busy bee

zebra10:  i dont even feel bad for you, reading through your first post and most recent posts – you clearly have some internal issues and have some desperate need to cling to a guy that treats you like garbage. I don’t know if you know you’re worth – but I feel like you can do better but it doesn’t matter if I think you can.. it only matters if you think you can, and clearly you think this douche fuck of a dude is the best you can do. If after all these comments, and all your posts, you still stay with him/take him back, you pretty much deserve whatever you get. HOwever he treats you. You’re making your bed and thats your problem. 

The best I can hope for is that you rethink how you are being treated and realize your worth and how this guy not only doesn’t deserve your forgiveness/kindness, he doesn’t deserve a second of yours or any self-respecting woman’s time.

Post # 290
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2449 posts
Buzzing bee

probablyitachi:  omg! Exactly how I felt reading this train wreck of a post!

Post # 291
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3114 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

OP if you get back together and he cheats on you, will you just excuse him again by blaming yourself? Why do you think a 30 year old man is not accountable for his own actions? I know its hard to admit when someone you love is disrespecting you, but what does he do to make you feel good? What do you get out of this relationship? What does he offer that someone else can’t? Or are you just addicted to drama?

Contrary to what a lot of people want to believe, good relationships don’t hurt, and they aren’t always hard. 

Post # 293
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

zebra10:  YES,  YES and YES! 

Post # 294
Hostess
3892 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

This is the most pathetic situation I’ve ever witnessed and I have a friend who has been waiting nearly a decade for her boyfriend to marry her and give her children even though he’s said repeatedly for their entire relationship that he never wants either marriage or children.  I strongly believe that if someone tells you who they are, you believe them. 

Post # 297
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

zebra10:  Read between the lines.  Actions speak louder than words, and his actions are screaming NOPE at you.  You were right to not believe him when he immediately went out with another woman – he was not genuine.

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 3 months ago by  missinthecity.
Post # 298
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9527 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Good lord, can’t this be finished already??!!

**** banging head against fuckin wall****

Post # 299
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1146 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

zebra10: Because he’d seemed so into me up until that point when I started trying to talk future.

I thought you said the entire relationship he’d never shown emotion towards you, to the point of your family noticing how emotionless he was, going days without answering your calls, and telling friend he only lived with you for the rent money. Wasn’t that why him answering your call and actually speaking to you like a normal human was so groundbreaking? Because the “entire relationship” was him being an uncaring user and therefore he must be different now? Is that what you consider “so into you” ?

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