Is He EVER Going To Propose?? Please Help!

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
Member
2704 posts
Sugar bee

He doesn’t want to get married and he may never want to. I don’t really have too much advice on this one. He’s been pretty honest about it. One day you’ll get sick of it and walk or he will. 

Post # 3
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98 posts
Worker bee

No no no no…. He does not respect you. You set the standard as how you are to be treated and you have allowed this standard to be low. You have children together which is a way bigger commitment than marriage. You do what a wife does for him and yet you have allowed him to be the decision maker as to something you really want. Set the bar higher , state exactly what you want and what seriousness you expect , if he wants to be with you he will rise to the occasion otherwise don’t waste any more time . we over complicate things, life is about figuring out what is absolutely important to you and then going out and finding it, don’t give your power away to a man who does not respect your needs

Post # 4
Hostess
3703 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

You simply tell him you’re done pretending to be his wife. This is an incredibly 1 sided relationship, and why would he want to change when you do everything for him? You’ve demonstrated how much you will take and as long as you keep taking the scraps he’s handing out, why would he ever do more? 

Post # 5
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635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

You gave him children, you live with him, you paid for him, you cook and clean for him and you let him call you you’re a fiancé when you’re not one and in return he gave you nothing. You required nothing from him and that’s what you got. He’s not marriage material and at 30 he never will be…. how did I forget about the 3some. You know what kinda of man you have… not good one. Your marriage will be just as much of a one sided sham as you current relationship.  

You shouldn’t be asking will he ever propose, you should be asking why you would even want to marry a man like this?

 

Post # 6
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1672 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018 - Our Backyard

 

The threesome thing is very alarming. I feel that’s a way to cheat with your permission. Do you suspect infidelity? 

Post # 7
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1802 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

beautifulbee26 :  My honest thought is that your boyfriend has no incentive to marry you because he already has somebody raising children, supporting him financially, tending to his home and other needs right now. What is he missing out on? He doesn’t want to marry you, and you haven’t made it a requirement either.

I would give him a timeline, and then walk if he doesn’t commit by then as a last ditch effort. But, honestly, I haven’t heard many redeeming qualities about him or your relationship as a whole to warrant me pressuring for a proposal anyway. I’d be planning an escape route. Sorry bee

Post # 8
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219 posts
Helper bee

my advice would be to read and reread your post.  over and over and over until it finally sinks in that you’re better off walkin.

Post # 9
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2608 posts
Sugar bee

You’re the mother of his children.You shouldn’t have to beg him to marry you

Post # 10
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3491 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

Is he EVER going to propose?? >>>> NO

Post # 11
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11977 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Between this:

But of course he didn’t listen and said I’m not ready to right now, it’s not really on my mind, I like how things are. My mom recently asked him and he turned away, and I said answer the question and he said when you give me a year of no drama I will….excuse me?

And the request for a threesome, this guy seems awfully entitled and misogynistic. Why would YOU want to marry him? 

Start using a rock solid birth control and planning your escape. 

Post # 12
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1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

PPs are so right. He has no reason to marry you. You’ve given him everything a traditional wife does and he has not had to make any commitment to you in return. You’ve become his live on. You’ll stay his live in until he grows tired of you, which isn’t far away since he’s now looking for a threesome to fulfill his needs. 

Post # 13
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1272 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

short answer: no 

long answer: if someone gives you an entire farm, why would you buy a cow? You are giving him everythign for nothing, he doesnt have to do anything, he gets it all with bare minimum effort, even by being an asshole, he still gets whatever he wants from you.
You seem like a self-efficient lady who can handle your own shit, time to take your business elsewhere where itʻs appreciated and move the F on. Your children are learning to how to be treated by someone and how to treat someone.

Post # 14
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1272 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Post # 15
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6626 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

beautifulbee26 :  Um…why do you even want him to propose?! This guy is a loser. You should be planning your escape, not trying to find ways to tie yourself to him further. 

But to answer your question: no, he will never propose.

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