(Closed) Is he going to propose

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
Member
38 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I am assuming the trust issues is why you guys are currently separated?

 

I obviously dont know him, you or your situation but I think he is just trying to let you know, he wants to be with you and loves you and sees himself marrying you one day but what stops him are “xyz”. Sometimes guys thoughts are confused but they know in the ened what they want.

 

It is like car shopping…I want X but Y is so nice too. But I wont buy the new car til my old one is paid off, etc.

I think it is perfectly acceptable and I would say, honorable of him to know that he wants to get married when he can dedicate his all to it. I don’t know what “xyz” are…if its financial or emotional or something else like “i want to travel the world first or experience more”…i guess that would be important to know.

 

I think you have to think most importantly is, if he asks, will you say yes. Do you trust him enough to be with him for the rest of your lives?

Post # 4
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10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Why would you want to marry someone you are currently separated from? Him being your children’s father isn’t a good enough reason, imo.

Post # 5
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6019 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

@LJefferson23:  I think its a bit off to be discussing marriage while you are separated. the separation happened for a reason I assume. So IMO it would be wise to really discuss the status of your relationship with him and figure out how to build a trusting, healthy relationship before talking about rings and an engagementmarriage. A ringengagement is not a cure all if there are issues and if you would like a solid foundation, there needs to be some major communication and healing between you two before moving forward.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

@LJefferson23:  Personally I would never do an actual separation with someone I was not completely done with. I have done it where I told the person I was with that I did not know where we were headed given how things had been going and that we needed o figure things out one way or another but as of now, any forward progress is on hold until we can get on solid ground with each other. I don’t handle “breaks” well and I automatically think that since we arent in an actual relationship that he can go hook up with other girls or do what he wants basically. so if you are struggling with trust I would sit down with him and be completely honest about how you are feeling during this time of separation and that its not helping you two move in a good direction. So maybe instead of a separation you two can just stop any progress towards “the next step” and just focus on getting your relationship to a good place where you guys can start talking about the next step. Its much cleaner that way and not nearly as messy IMO. pLus if you two have marriage in the future, this could be good practic eon working through the rough patches.

Post # 9
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1719 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@LJefferson23:  I think I see the confusion with your Boyfriend or Best Friend as well.  Most men are straight-forward.  If marriage is what they want, you will know.  There won’t be any doubts about.

 

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