Post # 1
Last January 2018, my ex-boyfriend ended up our 7-year relationship just because he fell in love with someone else. I’ve been working abroad for less than a year and we have a consistent communication and it just happened. He didn’t fight for me. I was devasted. Then on the month of February, I posted random thing on “my day” a feature of facebook messenger. A guy from my high school days reacted on it! I have no connection with this guy at all… we’re just literal first-year high school classmate and literal facebook friends. We never have any conversation before or even a chance to talk or chat around! So I was surprised. That was our first conversation ever and we’ve been chatmate since then. He knew I am broken hearted and share his playlist with me. What drew me closer to him is that he is like an open book. He shares personal stories which you could only tell to close friends. I appreciate that moment like where in another universe, sharing personal matters without barriers even long distance. He once told me… “I didn’t lose anything, It’s the loss of the boy who left me”. I ask him how can he tell such and he answered: “just because”. One day I opened up with him regarding my ex and he became distant a little. we don’t talked anymore like we used to… not everyday anymore but he often sends memes to make me laugh and milk tea related photos. As much as I wanted to make our conversation longer he always disappeared in the middle. Now I wonder if is he into me?
Post # 2
one thing i learned, if a guy is into you, you will know. you will never need to question it. trust me.
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2018 - City Hall
arnsmsn : The fact that he withdrew a bit after you opened up to him doesn’t sound good to me… But I agree with PP, when a man is really into you, you will know!
Think about it… When you REALLY like someone, you just can’t help yourself. You will text them because you’re thinking of them, you will go out of your way to hopefully see them, you will try and make plans, etc. Whether you want it to be known or not, the other person can usually tell you’re into them because you are drawn to them and can’t help but show interest.
IMO, I’d want a guy who’s not afraid to go for me and put himself out there… I want a guy who is over the moon for me and not afraid to show it! Obviously I want to be over the moon for them too 😉
Post # 4
Yes I agree with PP who said if a guy is into you…you will know. You won’t question where you stand with him. It’s true!!
Post # 5
An online friendship is not real life. If your former classmate wanted to suggest getting together, no doubt he would have by now. To be honest, I’d be concerned by anyone posting or writing about their personal life to this extent on Facebook.
Post # 6
If you have to question it, he’s not.
Post # 7
No, he’s not into you. Sorry bee!
Post # 8
Sorry bee. He isn’t into you.
Post # 9
arnsmsn : Sounds friendly, nothing much more. It’s possible he was temporarily interested but either realized you didn’t have enough in common, long distance is a pain, or you opened up about your ex enough for him to realize you’re not over him. You definitely aren’t over him (he left you “just” because he fell in love with someone else? Seems like a good reason to me!). Not trying to be a jerk, but if I were into someone and they kept talking about their ex, I’d distance myself for sure. I’ve also been in situations where I’ve been really into guys until I got to know a bit more about them and realized it wasn’t worth bothering with a relationship – no dates necessary.
Keep him as a friend to lift your spirits, but don’t worry anything more. You need to get over the ex first anyway. Seven years is a long time.
Post # 10
This sounds like highschool. No, he’s not into you.
Post # 11
You’ve been chatting regularly since February. Have you actually seen him in person?
Post # 12
I’m curious about what exactly you said when you opened up about your ex