Post # 1
My new husband still has his first love’s sister and friends on his facebook, despite having a talk with me at the beginning of our relationship about removing my only ex from my social profiles.
The thing is, he THINKS I don’t know who these girls are, but the ex’s sister kept congratulating and talking to him on his page, so wondering who this girl was, I had a snoop at her page and realised when I saw wedding photos of his ex on the sister’s albums.
I have no doubt he loves me (especially since his first also cheated on him) but it doesn’t make sense why you would want to keep tabs on each other. Should I approach him about it? I’m not one to demand he remove them from his Friends list, but at the same time, it makes me uneasy as to what his intentions for having them as friends are. He is sometimes a tad revengeful, but hey, this ex was over 10 years ago! How should I approach him about it?
Post # 3
@blinx: No I would not approach him. Just let it go. I still have my ex/first loves’s siblings on my FB because I actually like them and they are nice people.
Post # 4
How about his intentions are that he likes them and values their friendship?
Are you saying he can’t be friends with these people because they know his ex who is remarried and an ex of 10 years? Doesn’t that sound a little ridiculous when you read it? Would you be happy if your partner wanted you to dump your friend of 10 years because you happened to date her bother?
Post # 5
@j_jaye: Sorry I should have elaborated…he asked me to remove my ex’s brothers and friends as he didnt feel comfortable with it.
if there is a friendship its a weird one as in the 4 years we dated, i only met one of the girls…who chose not to invite us to her bdays or wedding after we got together.
I wouldnt care less but for the fact it felt double standards?
Post # 6
@blinx: Well yes in that case it is more about double standards than friends.
But asking anyone to cut friends because of a relationship with an ex is rather controlling so I would talk to him about that issue and not the fact that he is still friends with these people.